On the fourth of July, 2007 Caleb Potter was involved in a skateboarding accident.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.

Sunday, August 5, 2007

Glorious Sunday morn

Tonight is the benifit for Matthew Dieltz Williams-- please take the time to support another local boy. Matt lost his arm in a car accident and I know prior to Caleb's accident, he was on board to do a raw bar for Matt and I know he would want you to be there. I don't know all the details but it is today at the Elks club - Please go! Yesterday was our first set-back day and tho I expected it sooner or later - I was thrown off balance and lost it. Caleb was in alot of pain and was vacant for most of the day -- he has not required pain medication for about a week now but he was down for the count and kept asking for meds. This is one of the most painful situations a parent can be in - you feel so helpless! I have not seen him yet today but Kai and Max are arriving and I hope his spirits will be up and running once again. When Caleb graduated from high school I helped him pay for a trip to Europe to travel with Chad and Mike D. Caleb was dating Grace at the time and he promised he would celibrate their one year anniversary at midnight. After a long night out (as I think every night was) with the boys , Caleb dragged himself out into the alley outside of the hostel, lit a fire with toilet paper and little sticks in spite of the continued drizzle of rain, opened a bottle of whiskey and in Caleb's own way celebrated their union - which means he was loud - yelling Grace's name into the night. A man and his two little children came out with a hot bowl of soup and warm towels and in that moment Caleb realized that they mistook him for a bum in the streets. Since he didn't speak German he could not begin to explain, but that experience of pure love and compassion stayed with him. At night when I drag my weary self to the bed and lie there thinking about Caleb, I too am touched by all the love and compassion - I feel like in your wishes, you bring us hot soup and warm towels each night. Thank you. Mum

18 comments:

Clance said...

Hang in there lad, recovery has it's tough moments, but an old pirate like you will outlast even the roughest of storms!! Last night we had a blazin fire here at home, and I told everyone your quote "Rough it up good, don't let anything dangerous change your mind" and even strangers think you are the coolest person! Stories like what Ms. Mumsie shared today makes you the raddest person ever!

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Anonymous said...

I have been wanting to read my fairy oracle cards for Caleb since his accident. For some unknown reason it didn't feel like the right time until last night when Lily, 9 months, pulled them out. I asked about Calebs healing and pulled out the best card for him.

"Happily Ever After"

Card meaning : A happy outcome is assured. Release any anxiety, and feel secure that everything is resolved in the end.

This is a reassuring card signaling that the "movie" you are currently starring in has a very happy ending. Situations that appear sticky are miraculously resolved. Misunderstandings are forgiven. Mistakes are forgotten.
You are urged to stop worrying about the future, as your fears could be self-fulfilling in a negative way. you could literally sabotage heaven's happy plan for you if your worries are excessive. So, go outside into nature, and ask the faries to help you rejoice in the perfection of Creation. Your joy renews your faith, and ensures the happy outcome that is in store for you.

Affirmation : Everything is in Divine and perfect order, right now.

I hope you find some comfort in this. Hang in there matey we are sending you all our love and support from Truro. Justine

blackbird said...

Set-back days are to be expected, I suppose...
they give you and he some time to fall back and re-group for tomorrow's hard work.

Still thinking of you from far away.

(now typo free)

Anonymous said...

God Bless you and yours Sharyn. There are going to be some very tough days ahead - and they will require such endurance! The good news is there will also be really good days! Someone I am very close to had a severe brain injury and in the end he is fine - a bit different; but fine. And I have to tell you the differences are interesting - he is more thoughtful and thankful for everything - trees, a beautiful day - he's just gentler in a way. Please be good to yourself and remember to take some time for yourself every day. Caleb is lucky to have such support and such a great Mom. Do you think he could have even made half the progress he has without you by his side? No way. You're doing a great job. And never forget the "power" of a nice, relaxing bath and a glass of wine at the end of the day. I pray for you and your family everyday and will continue! God Bless.

Anonymous said...

It is a Chinese proverb that I call MAYBE.
Long ago there lived an old man. One day he found his horse missing and all the neighbors came to comfort him on his unfortunate loss.He calmly replied MAYBE and said "it may not be a bad event, on the contrary, i think it can be a good one."
Some nights later to his suprise, he saw another beautiful horse as well as his own. Hearing the news all the neighbors came to say congratulations on his good luck for now having two horses.
Again the old man said MAYBE, and added that "It is true that I got a new horse, but it is hard to say whether it is good or bad"
His son was very fond of the new horse, and one day when he was out riding he fell and hurt his leg badly and was never able to walk freely again. All the neighbors came by to say how terrible this all was. Again the old man said MAYBE, "perhaps it is going to be good."
Soon many of the youth there were recruited to fight in a war but the old man's son was absolved from the obligation due to his injury.
The old story tells us that good and bad, disater and happiness, can be converting objects to each other..
Stay strong & healthy

Anonymous said...

Hello Dear Caleb Sharyn and family. This poem was written by Edgar A. Guest and I've had a copy of it since 1959. I'm sure you'll enjoy it. Caleb, here's hoping you'll soon be at 100%! It can be done! God bless you all.

IT COULDN'T BE DONE

Somebody said that it couldn't be done, but he with a chuckle replied that maybe it couldn't but he would be one who wouldn't say so till he tried.

So he buckled right in with a trace of a grin on his face, if he worried, he hid it. He started to sing as he tackled the thing that couldn't be done and he did it.

Somebody scoffed: "OH, you'll never do that; at least no one ever has done it," But he took off is coat and he took off his hat and first thing we knew, he'd begun it.

With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin, without any doubting of quiddit, he started to sing as he tackled the thing, that couldn't be done, and he did it.

There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done; there are thousands to prophesy failure; there are thousands to point out to you one by one, the dangers that wait to assail you.

But just buckle in with a bit of a grin, just take off your coat and go at it. Just start in to sing as you tackle the thing, that cannot be done, and you'll do it.

Anonymous said...

Sharyn, Caleb and family,
Hang in there, Kiddo! You've come so far-that old saying, "Two steps forward, one step back" is true for much of our progress in life, whether it's starting a business, learning to play an instrument, or healing from a major trauma. I can totally understand the "losing it" part of being a Mom and have been guilty of that many times myself under much lesser circumstances. But once we've "lost it" we always seem to "find it" again because that's what loving Mothers do. Be strong, m'lady, and stay the course. And I really think you should write a book. What knowledge could us 50+ women impart to younger ones? They sure didn't teach us all about this s---in Snip & Chatterettes, now did they? ARRRR!! Love ya, Sue, Christa, Jeff and Kim Gould

moonmolly3 said...

Hey Sharyn. Remember when the kids were REALLY little and they'd have a day (or two) of REALLY awful behavior? And then they'd come out of it. And they'd be bigger (like tomato plants) or they'd have reached some new develeopmental high (like learning to stand up or make sentences or something)? We'd call it a growth spurt and that tough day ALWAYS preceded those. This was all about Caleb's growth spurt. It was his way of mustering forces to take a big leap.

And also, his discomfort might signal a higher level of awareness...

Hang in there, my friend.

Love,
Martha

hatfield said...

what a great story, and a wonderful spirit that boy has... you guys are so strong,set backs will only make you stronger. A real pirate wouldn't have it any other way.
Hattie

Anonymous said...

Dear Sharyn,

What a mother you are......and not just for Caleb, Kai and Max have shown their own strength during this past month. Try and keep focus on how far Caleb has come in a month and you will realize that a bad day was not all that "bad" after all. Sharyn you are an inspiration to many, especially to Moms.

Anonymous said...

that is such a great story! Tough days are expected but they will only make you stronger, keep taking one day at a time. Caleb has come so incredibly far, its only guna get better from here. I admire your AMAZING strength Sharyn, keep hangin in there. Thinkng of you & Caleb everyday out here in Oregon

love always, Claire

Anonymous said...

Dear Caleb,
Yesterday was a stellar day at Newcomb Hollow and as I was lying there soaking up the healing rays, I was thinking that when I was very sick and couldn't go to the beach I would close my eyes and bring it to myself until I could feel the warmth of the sand next to my cheek and the scent of the air, salt spray mixed with sunscreen. I could hear the gulls crying in the distance and the waves crashing onto the shore.
Doing this distracted me from the pain and gave me hope of getting back to my favorite spot.
Have a good day today, and focus on your goal. One day at a time. And Sharyn my heart crys for you, my strength is with you. kiss the boy for me.

Anonymous said...

When I heard that he was in some pain the other day I thought GREAT his brain is really waking up now. . . I cannot wait for Zack to come home and I can hug him knowing he was hugging Caleb just hours before.

xoxox,settie

Anonymous said...

Hello Miss.Lindsay,
That was such a touching story about Caleb in Europe. That is so amazing how true compassion is shown Worldwide. Caleb definately deserves every little bit if compassion that he will ever get. I remember telling Caleb a couple years back that we named our Caleb after him because he was the most awesome person that I have ever met. Caleb is, without a doubt, the most compassionate, loving, understanding, good-hearted MONKEY..haha..that I have and will ever meet in my lifetime, and I pray to God that our Caleb turns out just like him. You did an amazing job with your boys, Sharyn. You are a GREAT mother..I salute you OLD LADY(as you are refered to in the Judith home.. hahaha!!!) Love to you all in Boston. Please give Caleb a GIANT hug from the Miner Fam. We can't wait to see you all again.
~Love Nicole

Anonymous said...

Sharyn: It was nice to meet you yesterday and have a few minutes to spend with you and Caleb. Having only returned a few days earlier from Wellfleet, my wife and I were amazed by the tremendous community support for Caleb and your family. I truly feel that I have met someone very special. He will remain in my prayers, along with you and your entire family. I'm hopeful that Caleb will be back home in Wellfleet soon.
-Sean / SRH

Anonymous said...

I was lucky enough to get up to Wellfleet last week for Caleb’s Wicked Jag and to attend a few prayer circles. It had been about 3 years since I was last there and even though some of the faces have gotten older and names of the restaurants have changed, it was great to see that for the most part the same old crew was still in effect. It was great to see everyone and be a part of the outpour of love for Caleb. But I what can I say a jag just isn’t a jag with out Sharyn and leb. Max and Kai have grown up into quiet amazing young men, of course they did, I never doubted that.

Your whole families strength and spirit continue to amaze me, as does the compassion exhibited by the community of Wellfleet and the all the people who do not even know Caleb but are sending him love and good wishes. In the last prayer circle I attended before I came back to New York everyone went around and made a wish for Caleb (OK some made 3) but for the most part people wished Caleb…. their strength, an amazing progress on his recovery, for him to come back to Wellfleet, and one man joked I just want to be able to meet the guy already…

I am glad you feel the wishes and love so many people are sending to you. I hope they comfort you and give you strength during these difficult times. I think your book idea is great!
Sending thoughts of love and healing.
Love,
Kim Harris

Amy St.John said...

Hey there mumsie...woke up with you on my mind this morning, as it is most mornings. My heart is so full. Seeing caleb on Sat. was both the most wonderful, and most intense day of my life. It felt so good to look into his eye and see him there and be able to give him a few hugs and try to tell him I wish him the strength of the world. And the way he wouldn't let go of my hand when I was trying to say "see you soon", tugging on my finger tips. I wish I could quit all my jobs and camp out under his bed so I can help him out in any way whenever needed!! Corey and I were greatly moved by our visit. It was good to be there with all of you. Much love as always...amy st.john