On the fourth of July, 2007 Caleb Potter was involved in a skateboarding accident.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.

Sunday, October 14, 2007

A Sigh Of Relief

In celebration of Oysterfest, Caleb picked up an oyster, a rag and a pocket knife and began the process, so deeply ingrained in his brain, of digging into to the hinge, twisting and prying open that stubborn shell. Once opened, he wiped his knife clean, admired the treasure hidden inside and and tipped it back. Seeing that made us all pretty happy.
Another thing happened yesterday that made me laugh. I could only laugh because I know as a brother, Caleb would certainly have laughed at me. He was looking a little red in the face and seemed a little off, so mom asked to get a temp reading on Caleb. The nurse arrived and began to explain what was going to happen. She said she was going to take a "core temperature", meaning that the thermometer won't be reading a temp taken from his mouth. The nurse told Caleb what to expect, but apparently he wasn't paying attention. I grabbed his hand just to offer some brotherly support- as this can be an uncomfortable process- and told him just to relax. "WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOAAAA" Caleb's eyes opened right up and shot straight to me- " theres a finger in my butt". I couldn't help it- I just cracked up and told him, again, what was going on. "oh" he says, " its just a thermometer? Well, I'm not getting any of those floating viruses from the hospital." I said--thats right, you are healthy and strong and you're not getting sick anymore. Once finished, Caleb let out a big breath and relaxed a bit and then continued talking with us, making us all laugh like he always does and reassuring us that what we have been fearing all along is now something we can let go, that we can all exhale that big breath that we've been holding in for three months now and feel some relief, as if that nurse has finally just finished taking all of our "core temperatures". Kai

34 comments:

Anonymous said...

Very funny Kai, great youre getting your bro back. Exhale. Ali Manchester UK

Anonymous said...

Haha, thats so awesome Kai.. glad to hear you are there with him, you must be an extra treat for the bill. Look out I betcha he will seek revenge after you witnessing all you have there by his side! By then you will be more than ready to be hog tied, beaten, & picked on by him, get Natey Matey ready too!!! Luv ya guys.. xo. Clance

Anonymous said...

Kai,
Thanks for bringing a litttle levity to the blog; it was tough hearing about Barb and her passing the way she did.
The last time that I saw you was with Sharyn on the morning of the Fourth; unfortunately, we haven't had much pleasant to remember since then. Keep up the good work - best blog since your mum's
W

Anonymous said...

if speech therapy takes the form of a "core" temperature, so be it!

Anonymous said...

Kai,
Caleb's so lucky to have you there for him - there are not many guys that would feel comfortable holding their brothers hand - never mind while having a core temperature taken! You guys are a tribute to your parents. I dont think your mumsie has anything to worry about in you!

It's great to hear that Caleb hasn't lost his touch! Thanks for your post.

Anonymous said...

Very funny Kai! Now listen to your mom, don't be a fool, stay in school! Love, Lily's Mom

Anonymous said...

Kai,
That's FREAKIN' HILARIOUS!!! ;)
It took me a little time to compose myself to be able to write to you. You crack me up! I must say that the Potter sense of humor is a one of a kind thing. I love you all! Thank you so much for the humerous blog entry today. It was much needed.

And, did my Hubby cause trouble at Spaulding today??? LOL! He was SO EXCITED to go see Caleb today. I heard that the visit went well, and that Caleb was in great spirits. Thanks for letting him come up. He needed to see his Lad.

Well, thanks again, Kai!
~Nicole Miner
xoxoxoxox :) xoxoxoxox

Anonymous said...

Kai, great story. Between the thermometer and the oyster it does definitely show Caleb's core is there, for sure. And on a bright note, just came home from two days at the Oyster Fest - it was totally awesome. Caleb was everywhere, right up until the end I had the pleasure of listening to your aunt play the bagpipes and visit with your grandmom. Love her!

Anonymous said...

Hooray, Caleb's eating oysters! And cracking jokes! It is not easy to be funny in the first place... I am smiling at the visual of the surprised look on his face when the deed was done...he's a piece-o-work all right. Thanks for the day-brightener, it came just in time.
As always, with hope,
peg from PA

Alexandra Grabbe said...

Great t-shirts for Caleb at Oysterfest today! I put a photo and a link on my blog, so you might want to provide info on how to obtain them for folks out there who did not make it to Wellfleet this weekend ...

Anonymous said...

Kai, thanks so much for your post. A good laugh is powerful! You're an amazing brother, son, and friend.

Oysterfest was a blast! Could we ask for better weather? A HUGE thanks to Shaye, Jennie, Katie, Corey, and anyone that was helping out at Caleb's booth! You are the most loving, supportive, and dedicated friends I have ever seen! I loved seeing all of your smiling faces at the booth, knowing that it was a success. You all looked stunning! You should all feel tremendous pride after putting on a beautiful fundraiser for a dear friend. You all make the town a better place! The merchandise at the booth was great! Who designed the logo on the clothing? Their really talented!

Peace and love!

Anonymous said...

we missed all of your smiling faces this weekend in town, but so many people were showing their support for Caleb. keep up the positivity, love, ryan

Anonymous said...

Kai, God Bless You!!! You are a such a multi talented guy, not to mention as awesome brother!!! Your strength is beautiful to witness. love and peace to you all from someone who cares about you all!!! Caleb, keep on making those steps in the right direction, BUT, don't forget that good things are WORTH the TIME they take, (in this case your healing and safety from infection come first ). Everything is going to work out because you are awesome too!!! I miss your friendly wave and can't wait to see it again!!! Keep on taking care! love, Andrea

Anonymous said...

Oysterfest was fabulous! We held Barbara spirit and the Potter family's joy with us all weekend!

One question...does the smell of oysers attract the hot men? Were they lookin' good this year or what?! Simple equation ladies, the more oysters= the more gorgeous fellas! If this "equation" is in fact true, maybe we should consider spritzing on some oyster-esque perfume before leaving the house....?

Anonymous said...

Kai- I love you steamy buddy- so glad Caleb is showing you guys he's himself.
I love you Caleb- can't wait to hang, buddy...
India

Anonymous said...

Priceless...........

Anonymous said...

Barbara Jordan's Memorial service is being planned for early November at The Bookstore Restaurant. Her ashes will be scattered from the pier. Watch for a notice as to the date.

Anonymous said...

Kai,

Great post!! Caleb is feeling "normal." I would cringe if anything went up my butt too! Your a great bro! Think about school...You could come home weekends. I know it's a long ride...

Kevin

Anonymous said...

Thanks, Kai. Well put.

Love,
Ellen Webb

Tracy in the Berkshires, Ma. said...

Kai,
you really are a great writer....much like your mom....
"wit and wisdom" the two of you...
Caleb,s progress reports are sounding better all the time.I look forward to a blog from him sometime soon....It
could be very theraputic.Take care of yourself.

Tracy in the Berkshires, Ma. said...

ps

Is there a way to purchase t-shirts...I was able to see one through Alexandra Grabbes blogg can you guys maybe put us in touch.
I know I would love a few and I am sure others here would as well.
Thanks

Anonymous said...

The insight of your ability to sense the tension ready for releasing is not surprizing given how much a part of the natural world you all are. Thanks for showing us all the easy/hard part of being. Kai-Spend some time alone.. let the mud settle and see what your heart/body/mind says. sometimes when sitting with a big decision it is helpful to mediatate on opposites.(ie I want to stay in school/ I want to leave school for now). You may be surprized what you find within yourself. honoring yourself you will honor your family as well however that is expressed . You are amazing brothers. ann m

Anonymous said...

Sharyn, this is not a critisim so please DO NOT take it that way at all.
SOmetime when you write to us you sound so down and give the impression things really aren't that great, yet when Kai or Jennie blog things seem so rosie and good.
Is it truly somewhere in the middle?
As a mom I think you see the real deal, and maybe love is clouding little brother and happy girlfriend. Could that be true?
When I had a loved one that was struggling from a stroke I grasped at everything. Every movement,every clearly said word, but his spouse was more of a realist.
Keep the faith, and keep blogging, we all send our prayers.


J

Anonymous said...

Sharyn - My heart goes out to you and yours -perhaps the enormity of it all is catching up - only way I can handle such things is by being very zen-ish - stay in the moment -focus on your breath and know that no matter what, Caleb is your son that you will always love and cherish - this may not be the destination you envisioned, but does life ever work that way? From the friends that write about you it sounds like you've lived your life with your heart open and your feet firmly grounded in the earth, so keep doing what you've been doing - ask for help if you need it, care for yourself, and you will be able to do what is in front of you. That's all any of us can ask of ourselves...

Anonymous said...

give em hell ya ol boy.

Anonymous said...

It's interesting how perceptions differ. Some of us think that Sharyn is preternaturally optimistic while Jenny, for example, gives a very matter-of-fact description. Well, with kisses thrown in. Kai writes as if Caleb were a growing plant of which he is extremely fond, even though sometimes he's had a damp rag thrown in his face. Poper younger brother. It adds up to giving us a clear view. It's none of our business (which reminds me, when is Caleb going to get his privacy back?), but a lot of us are hoping very much that Kai stays in school.

Anonymous said...

I just ran into Caleb with his posse rolling and strolling on the Charles River. Last I saw him was shortly after the accident and he was bed-bound then. Now he is outside in a wheelchair, bouncing a ball, talking a bit and being cool. His progress is amazing, as reported by mumsie and others. He looks so great. I couldn't help noticing how strong his hands are, which is a great sign to me. I know Sharyn has him fighting and clawing his way back to Wellfleet, and he is getting there. This is all so great and amazing. There is a ways to go for sure, but it is real progress from the nadir not so long ago. So congratulations and a big thanks as well to the Potters and Lindsays for all the energy and love spent to bring him this far. This is no doubt a long road that still needs everybody's support, so please keep helping in every way-positive vibes a must. A special shout out to Shaye and his crew for an amazing job at Oysterfest, too.

dennis m.

Anonymous said...

LOVE IS ALL WE NEED

Sharyn said...

Julie - I think we are all authentic in our own way. Jenny and Kai see Caleb from week to week so they see all the changes which seem (and are) major to them.I see these things also, but I see the lack as well and wish to paint a detailed view of what I see if only for the reason that I don't wish for him to come home and have everyone thinking he is in tip top shape-- for his sake!

Anonymous said...

Mothers always know best. My Mom taught me that......and she was the wisest smartest woman I have ever known. It is all the difference of minute to minute vs week to week. All views are are accurate , and paint a total picture if you blur your eyes a bit. Everyone is seeing Caleb from a different perspective.You are all doing a wonderful job, laced together with love.
As always, with hope,
peg from PA

a. said...

y'all rock.

xo

Anonymous said...

Sharyn, Julie is right, and we understand, but put a big red smile in your blogs. You need to heal, too. Great story, Kai. Anyone who has been in a hospital for very long understands all of this. Very funny. Love, Hugs and God Bless all. XXXXXOOOOO Natale

Anonymous said...

Kai, you are hilarious!! I can't stop laughing and it makes it difficult to type. I am so happy to hear you held his hand for the whole thing...he will get you for that. I can feel it in me bones!! We all know caleb has a good strong "core" and we have all heard it speak to us...alot. Give the lad my love...amystj

Anonymous said...

Kai,
Breathe, relax, and keep up the good work in school, I know how hard it can be!