On the fourth of July, 2007 Caleb Potter was involved in a skateboarding accident.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

closer to home

Caleb seems more like Caleb lately..and as we are nearing the time when we arrive back in Fleet I would like to explain our situation here and how I will need for this to transfer to home until we get our bearings. Caleb and I have lived in a sequestered, sheltered situation here at Spaulding and the greatest challenge for us will be to integrate ourselves into our home without being overwhelmed. I can tell you that at the end of the day, when Caleb has company, I am exhausted just from talking so I know he is effected even more so. I will be asking that upon arrival and at least for the first week that no-one come by..no exceptions other than blood family, those who live on the property and Timmy who has become Spud's lifeline. I plan on calling a meeting soon after that where all of you can come by and I will have worked out by then an outline of how life and healing will best be approached for Caleb. I am so appreciative of all the helpful ideas and plans and will take everyone into consideration in due time. I feel it will be best to always remember to put ourselves second, without involving egos. This is about Caleb, and only Caleb. Jenny laid out what he has been doing as of late so I will keep this quick and to the point. I am a fierce mother whose energy has thickened and grown with this experience and I will be ever-watchful of those who are team players. I know for certain that all of your big hearts are ready and waiting and I will line you up and set you up with plenty of Caleb time- so not to worry. You will all play an important part in his healing and he needs you - just be patient with us. As for our new blogging family - any ideas on how you want to participate? I am willing ! The days are now flying by for me. I watch the leaves turning colors and think of how much Caleb has changed; we have changed through this event and I trust we will all be as brilliant!

59 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi Sharon,
Sorry I"v been so quiet,computers and I don't mix.Want to Let K-liber know we will be planting some of his baby clams today! I will make sure they get lots of LOVE.Hugs and kisses to you all,Flatts Mom B.A.

Anonymous said...

Glad you laid it down Ms. Sharyn.

There is a whole lifetime ahead for us all, Caleb especially he is gonna need time to ease into this one! You have been so amazingly watchful like any mother should be, and he will prosper from being around you and his loved ones on the Lyndsy/Potter Compound!
Loving you much, and smiling big thinking of Caleb's progress, & continuing strength!!
Xo..Clance

Sky said...

We're behind you all the way.
Love you,
Sky

Anonymous said...

The Wigwam welcomes you back. It has been a lonely place. Talked to Timmy and Spud at pond the other day and we walked back up the road together. We will be glad to help out any way we can. Hugs and Love.....Natale and Peter

Anonymous said...

As one of your 'new' family members, I want to thank you for keeping all of us informed on Caleb's progress and your lives the past 3 months. Once home your days will be filled with more healing AND everything else that you've been away from. Please know that a 'once in a while' update would be loved but don't ever feel stressed to write to us. Wish we were there to welcome you home. Namaste

Anonymous said...

Like Namaste, a progress report of Caleb would be great and I suppose the best thing would be when Caleb is ready for adding his own blog. What a fine day that would be!
I am so happy that he is coming home and his steady welcome back into the Fleet fold will be awesome. Photos of his visits would also be great as he is reunited with his Fleet family. A member of the cyber family....Ali Manchester UK

Anonymous said...

As a "blog buddy" I would just like to see this blog continue. Update us on his progress at home. Let us know how you are doing Sharyn, and post pictures.
I hope that this can continue in some way, shape, or form until his one year anniversary where we can see pictures of him as a pirate again in the parade.

becky said...

It would be great to get an update every now and then. I respect your need for privacy totally! Just know that you have touched me and my family to such an amazing degree. I had the blog up last night and I had walked away from the computer, when I came back I "caught" my 8 year old looking intently at the latest pictures of Caleb. He asked me if that was the "boy" that had been hurt. I told him it was, he took another look and looked at me and said, "Mom, he looks really good". So, get your son back home, get back to "normalicy", buy the BEST bottle of wine that Kevin has stocked and know that I (I can only speak for myself here) have learned a lot from your strenth. And also being a part of your extended blog family I will be one of the first in line to buy your book!!!!!!!! Here is to GREAT upcoming holidays with your family!!!

Anonymous said...

Sharyn, as a "new family", luckily I live here - so very very patiently I will wait for the day when Caleb himself notices the flag on my car, smiles at me, then we can talk. I'm sure everyone else will honor your absolute requirements for Caleb's healing in the days, weeks, however long it takes, ahead. The one thing you won't need is any kind of "outside" headache - your days will be filled and your friends will be there to help you as you ask. I, too, hope the blogs can continue - but they don't need to be by you, just someone close enough that will be involved. Hey Jennie!

Anonymous said...

"I watch the leaves turning colors ...and I trust we will all be as brilliant!"

Beautiful metaphor Sharyn!

Best wishes in the transition to home.

love,
Flo

Anonymous said...

Hi Sharyn,
Glad to see that you have "Layed Down The Law". :) You are a fantastic Mother, and considerate friend to so many. Thank you so much for putting everyone's feelings into consideration....I'm sure that, by now, people have learned to put themselves 2nd after Caleb. I think that you will have an easy transition home, and that we have all learned(I hope) to give Caleb a little "Healing Space".

I was actually curious to ask you something....Since you and your family will have to dedicate alot of your time to Caleb, would you like any of us to take turns making meals for your family??? That way, you could spend more time on the important stuff....Let me know...I am more than willing. As, I'm sure, many others are.

Hope you are all having a good day in Boston.....
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
~Nicole Miner :)

Anonymous said...

Dear Caleb & Sharyn,
So happy that you both will be home soon!!! I am sure that people who know the enormous road ahead will give you all the space & time that you need.

A little quote from another Von..

"We are shaped and fashioned by what we love"

J. Wolfgang VON Goethe

sending you all peace and
the biggest AAAAARRRRGH!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

sharyn do you remember elem. school/preschool phone chains? i remember them and also signing up to sit w/a child's ill parent -- if that is anything that can be done in that direction, put the blog word out.

Anonymous said...

i am happy you have written this sharyn.. the adjustment will take a lot of time, and consistancy is the key! you know where we all are, and what skills we can all bring to the table, so pick and choose what is needed for the time..and i am sure it will change again and again..i would imagine no one at this point would have any trouble doing exactly what you need and want them to do...i mean, we have all been with you and put up with you for this long..(as you have put up with us!)..so..it is just closer to home now. you know that whatever caleb needs you will eventually find..it just works that way... lots of love to you, lisa

Anonymous said...

Great news! And I'm proud of you for setting the limits even though it must be so hard to say. We are all anxious to have you back home- there's just comfort in knowing you'll be close-by.
For now, rest, drink a bottle of wine, and make a list of what you'll be needing. We're here for you.
Trudy

Anonymous said...

Sharyn, It's time your family got its privacy back. I hope you will enforce that, as almost everyone has been saying. (Though if you could share your breakfast, lunch, and dinner menus each week, we would appreciate it.) There's a wonderful song on the new Springsteen CD "It's Gonna be a Long Way Home." Jenny's post made it clear why that's true. Getting home after getting home is going to be almost as hard as getting home in the first place. Ask if you need something; otherwise we'll let you get on with it without interference. Which doesn't mean we don't have you in mind every hour, every day.

Anonymous said...

Dear Sharyn,
Your love as a mom is nothing short of a force for healing -- how inspiring!

I have a question as an out-of-state blogger; I would love to occasionally send a card, maybe a picture from my girls, IF it feels supportive and not bizarre or random because we do not know each other outside of this blog. Would you be open to letters/cards from bloggers or would you rather support that comes through kind thoughts and respectful distance? I'd hate to unintentionally make you feel anything other than lifted up as you transition again to home. I'll hold off until I know for sure. Thanks for all you've shared up to this point -- it has been ana amazing gift! Lisa K.

Anonymous said...

Sharyn,

You have certainly touched us all.
You and Caleb need your space--perhaps a friend could coordinate everything for you as to your needs and the visiting-cards-meals-etc. schedule. This blog has made us all feel like family with you---even those of us who only know you from the blog. Thank you for the wonderful gift of knowing you and your family.

Anonymous said...

I have not posted in a long time but have been reading faithfully as always. I am another stranger out here in blogger land. I am just so thrilled that things are going so well and that you all will be going home soon. The idea of it must be amazing but I am also guessing a little scary- being so far from the people who have been taking such wonderful care of your boy.

Your wishes for privacy and quiet are smart and understandable and I'm sure everyone will respect them without hard feelings. What is clear to those you know you and those of us who "met" you on this blog is that above all else you are an amazing, fierce and protective mother. As far as us bloggers I would just love it if you continued to share you updates, stuggles, triumphs and musings on life with us. But only as long as it does not feel like a burdon for you. Otherwise I will just hope to run into you in Wellfleet next summer!

Laura

Anonymous said...

oh you little children don't be ascared,mumsie will be right here for many a days.as for privacy,whatever.there aren't to many secrets where we're at.(not any good ones anyway)all anyone needs is to use common sense and proper respect.a phone call or post will be the best.keeping compassion and positive energy on the blog should be what everyone worries about,not it's shelflife.caleb see you soon and luv to sharyn and kai and liz.luv to the whole "blog family"timmy
p.s. what in heck does LOL(L.O.L.) stand for?

Anonymous said...

Home sings me of sweet things.....
You have done the absolute best thing for Caleb and your family by setting some limits and I salute you for your candor. Caleb's homecoming needs to be peaceful and full of love with solitude and visits all in the proper measure. I am so gladdened by the news, and of the thoughts of all of you home in your cozy nest.
That said, I will be wondering and thinking of all of you, and hope that someone will be able to spare a few minutes to update all of us out-of-town-but-still-there-with-you friends.....I look forward to the day when I am in town and recognise you and say Hey Sharyn, Caleb, I am-
As always , with hope,
peg from PA

Anonymous said...

PS...Laugh out Loud LOL LOL LOL...Laugh for joy!!!!! Caleb's coming Home!!!

Anonymous said...

Sharyn,

Like many, I have been following your journey from the perspective of one of my major life roles as mom, and feeling your pain and your joy as a mom. So when you laid out the parameters for your homecoming, I thought "AMEN!" You know more than anyone what you need, what your family needs, and most of all, what your boy needs. Thanks to all of you for sharing your stories. But Sharyn, it is your story that I can feel the most because you have approached this journey as a mom (or a mumsie) and that is one that I can understand and feel at an intuitive level that cannot be described by words. Whether you post to the blog or not, we will continue to be with you in spirit. I think when we follow your story, we may do so because, in part, it is the story of all human beings who hope the best for one another. Much love along this continuing journey,
Mom in CT

Anonymous said...

Hey crazy lady,
Well now it has been said for all to hear. Glad to hear caleb and all of you are doing better. I'm hoping that if I squeeze hard enough, that I can get some potter blood to spill from my body. Or maybe not. Waiting on your orders captain. Just let us know if you need anything at all. Unless it is blue with a spine, then your on your own.
Much Love
judith

Anonymous said...

L.O.L. or maybe L.O.J. laugh of joy.thanx to anonymous.judith keep your blue spiney thing where it belongs,no need to cause a traffic jam.what are you doing friday?take a ride north after work?237 8222 scro

Anonymous said...

Hi Sharyn,


I came up with some ideas to help in your transition back to the Wigwam in Wellfleet...


-A drop shipment of red lipstick will be left at the end of your driveway.

-Verizon has agreed to install six new phone lines in your house along with hand sets free of charge.

-The Flex Bus will now stop three times a day (breakfast, lunch and dinner) at your house.

-The Wellfleet Taxi will offer 10% off on rides to and from your house seven days a week.

-Champagne delivered to your house 24/7. No delivery charge!


If there are any other conveniences you can think of, let me know...


Kevin

Anonymous said...

Many have already said this, but just to echo others: Good for you for insisting on privacy. As a winter out of towner, I would love updates, etc., but not if it is at all a burden or an intrusion.

Thanks for sharing your journey with us all, and I wish you and your family a happy and successful journey in the weeks, months, years ahead.

Amy

Anonymous said...

Why can't everyone one leave Caleb alone. His mom knows best, let the guy have his rest and when he is better everyone can see him. Please give Sharon, Caleb, and family their space. Please......

mare said...

Dearest Sharyn,

I am so amazed and proud and inspired by Caleb and of course you. His will to live brings you both ashore again. He belongs here. He has fought every odd and is alive to share his beautiful spirit.

I am writing once again to tell you I am here if you should ever need to talk. I had a bad car accident in Truro. My physical injuries are so similar to Caleb's it is haunting for me. Over time they placed a plate under my eye, lifted my eyelid, repaired my cheek bones etc. Cape Cod hsopital was home for a looong time as was MEEI. I have doctor's names, and whatnot but most importantly...I have been down a long path of recovery. I can understand so much of what this is about. I am here if he needs to talk to a fellow Cape Codder who is also wild and crazy and loves funshine and sunshine and waves and lives for the beach, and stars as far as you can see. I was 19 at the time and now I am a Mom too...and the world is a beautiful place even amid these difficult times. You and he can e mail me anytime at Friend35@aol.com . Sometimes it helps to talk with someone who has been down the same or similar road. Love to you all.

Anonymous said...

Sharyn -

Portsmouth really isn't that far from Wellfleet - I'd be happy to join Nicole and whoever else and cook for you and yours if that's something that would work for you.

I'm thrilled at the thought of your return home and will continue to send love and positive energy your way. I would relish the occasional update if you feel so inclined - though I believe what I said last week about your (Caleb's and yours and brothers' and dad's) changes being largely personal and probably needing to stay that way.

Please let me know if there is something else that you need or would like that I can offer...I'm having trouble knowing what this could be, but am certain you'll recognize it when it arrives...and just as certain that you'll not hesitate to ask!

Big love and strength from me and mine...

Susan

Anonymous said...

Sharyn -

Portsmouth really isn't that far from Wellfleet - I'd be happy to join Nicole and whoever else and cook for you and yours if that's something that would work for you. I'm thrilled at the thought of your return home and will continue to send love and positive energy your way. I, too, would relish the occasional update if you feel so inclined - though I believe what I said last week about your (Caleb's and yours and brothers' and dad's) changes being personal and probably needing to stay that way. Please let me know if there is something else that you need or would like that I can offer...I'm having trouble knowing what this could be, but am certain you'll know it when it arrives.

Love and strength from me and mine...

Susan

Banana said...

Whatever you need, however you need it. We're here and waiting. Take care of yourself and your boy, and let us know, when you can, how we can help.

All good things - Anna

Anonymous said...

I look forward to someday meeting Caleb on the Town Hall lawn! Where many have gathered for months praying and wishing for him.
So glad that he will be home - that is where the healing will be -at home surrounded by his things, his home all that is familiar to him- WHERE HE BELONGS! Sue

Jeff- in the Berkshires said...

Good for you, Sharyn, in laying down the term of the return home. I can only imagine that Caleb and you must be exhausted by having a regular stream of visitors, however wonderful it is to reconnect.

As a neighbor in your virtual neighborhood I have felt priviledged in being allowed into this piece of your world and to be able to follow Caleb's journey and to add my part to the collective healing spirit. Learning about this tight fleet community is soo sweet. I like many others have probably developed a daily Caleb addiction.

We in the virtual world are here for what you need. My needs are satisfied by seeing the amazing progress (do I dare say miraculous), yes I do.

I too respect how much you value your privacy. So whether you continue this blog once Caleb is home or not you will all be in my healing thoughts.

Anonymous said...

Dear Sharyn and Caleb, So awesome that you are coming home Caleb!!! We all love you all! Sharyn, Caleb is so lucky to have you as his Mom. Life is rich! love, Andrea

Anonymous said...

L.O.L - there's been a lot of that extended to the Potter/Lindsay Family, Timmy, and you can have some too. Lots Of Love - Natale

Anonymous said...

You are taking such good care of your boy, Sharyn. The air of Wellfleet will be the best possible thing for him, and he'll be sailing out of the harbor again soon. We love you all so much.

love,
Mia

Anonymous said...

Really can't add any more to what has been said, except to thank you once again, Sharyn, for opening your heart to those of us who don't know your family, but who have benefitted from your eloquence, courage and graciousness. We came at first to find out what all the pirate/pray circles, signs were all about, and have continued to return because we have had our eyes opened to an unfolding miracle and to a way of life/community that inspires and encourages. And of course you and guest bloggers have entertained as well LOL!. We truly care about Caleb as well as his extended family and friends, and will always see Wellfleet in a new light in the following summers when we visit. I hold my family and friends dearer now. If we never meet, please know there will always be a wide circle who think of you and yours with a smile and who hold you in their hearts.

Jay Frasco said...

Hi Sharyn, I read about Caleb's hearing and thought I might have some info. I've been hearing impaired for a long time. I wear a tiny (I mean tiny) hearing aid by Sebotek in my left ear. Helps with hearing, yes, but also does wonders with balance and gives me peace of mind in situations with company. I mention it because it's almost invisible and the sound is near perfect. (Some background: I am friends with Dave Kennedy and Alla, live in LA, and have family and work from time to time in Fleet.) My thoughts have been with you and your family during all of Caleb's healing. The guy is amazing.
Take care, Jay Frasco

Anonymous said...

Sharyn,

God knows you will be very busy and hopefully REST a bit - being in your own home I'm sure will be little scary at first BUT blissful! Maybe you, or one or your friends, could update the blog weekly? Just an idea. I think to be doing it every day is just a little to much at this point. I also look forward to seeing pictures of your Caleb dressed as a pirate next 4th of July! God bless.

All love,

Mom in CT

Anonymous said...

So glad you're beginning the transition to home..........yes, you will need lots of privacy.....let me know if you need an enforcer!!! I can set up camp at the end of the driveway!!!! Seriously, can't wait to have you two back in town. I can picture you, after helping Caleb get ready for the day and his multitude of therapies, roaming your beautiful yard...with a cup of coffee....taking in the natural beauty.....dead heading flowers......gathering some warm chicken eggs out of the coop.....smelling the fall and the distant salt in the air......listening to the turkeys gobble away..(yes, turkeys...there are so many wild ones around now, they have to be in your yard too!).....anyway you get the picture......just let me/we know if there is anything at all that can be done to make life easier in your return.......we are here for you. I would also suggest turning the ringer off on your phone when you get home and just answer calls/ messages that you need or want to.....everyone understands.......Caleb comes first........love, jodi

Anonymous said...

Sharyn, congratulations to you and Caleb on your soon-to-be journey home - a long 4 months coming to an end - and a new beginning, the next phase.

I think it's mighty wise of you to set parameters and let everyone know, right up front, that they're loved, appreciated, but not necessary during the transition unless called upon.

Monitor your phone calls - don't feel you have to answer every ring. there will be times when you just don't want to talk - so don't! Return calls when you wish, knowing that no one will take offense. In fact, friends should lighten up on calls at first - until you say otherwise. YOU be the caller when you need something or someone.

Fill yourself when you are at home because you'll need even more energy for the next go-round of therapy - and lots and lots of patience.

Relax, knowing you can't do anything wrong, you don't need to think of others' feelings, you only need to do what's right for you and your family.

Well done, Mumsie.

Anonymous said...

Sharyn -
True healing needs time, patience and low stress. You let us know if you need anything. We're here.
Sylvia

Anonymous said...

Sharyn....rock on! I am so happy to hear that you and Leb will finally be in your element. It is because of you and all of the thoughts and prayers that he has weathered this storm so well. You have been an inspiration to many of us young women (and maybe men...?), showing us how a parent should stand by their child and fight for what in their heart they feel they should. I hope that someday I can be as patient...even though I know at times it was pulling at your last single heart string. You are an amazing person and an admirable mother. And, no. I am not "butt-kissing..." this is TRUE. You should be proud of who you are and how well you have raised your children. They are a reflection of you. I am happy to hear that Caleb is coming home and I wish you the best of luck with continued healing, relaxation, and the transition. Don't let anyone invade your privacy. You deserve to be alone and when YOU are ready, you say the word. You are the mother, and visitors are not first priority and people will have to get over it. You make the call. Good work though, Sharyn...comparable to your gardening skills:) We are all so proud of you for holding up so well through all of this. Your strength is amazing. Way for me to drone on and on and on. Haven't written in a bit. My bad!
Thinking of you,
Corey

Anonymous said...

Life is truly beautiful- I am overjoyed at all the great news and awesome pictures- Thank you

Love and Peace

Anonymous said...

There are a lot of good suggestions but one I heard I want to second. I think it is really important to set up a co-ordinator for volunteers and meals etc. When my sister was sick with bone cancer her best friend stepped up and organized all the volunteers. She happened to be great at orgainizing but it was also important that she knew my sister so well she knew what she would like or not like. Also she was seeing my sister almost everyday so it was easy for her to ask would you like so and so to do this or not. It was really great that people called Aileens house all the time and not my sister's and my sister, who wasn't good at telling people no was able to delagate that chore. As far as food went they were overwhelmed with food but it wasn't what the family really liked to eat so it wasn't as helpful as all the (great) cooks thought. Picking up things at the market was more helpful. The volunteers did everything, they had cleaning help, gardening help, carpooling for the kids, massages, anything you can imagine. Anyway I think having someone else close to you organizing the volunteers might be a really good idea and then you can chose from what people are offering what you need. I think it's really smart of you to set limits otherwise you might have 75 people you barely know standing with cakes and caseroles at your front door.

Anonymous said...

i think sharyn von lindsay should add LOL to that name, because all that i have witnessed from afar is that she LOVES OUT LOUD!!!!!!!
peace and thoughts for your return home....

Anonymous said...

it sounds like you have a wonderful group of people in town that will step up and help you out in any way you need help.
i wish caleb much success in his continued recovery, i am SURE he will be just fine..... how can he not be with such a wonderfully cool bunch of folks surrounding him.
i WILL meet you one day, caleb.... and sharyn.... and when i do i will cry tears of joy knowing that my prayers helped in this journey.
all our prayers..... out here in cyber land.
take care
amy in ct

Anonymous said...

Today's New York Times has a report about the reporter, Bob Woodruff, who had serious head injuries as a result of being hit by shrapnel in Iraq. I thought of Caleb, and wondered if this guy might be a source of support and inspiration for you all. Since I am in NYC, this is the most that I can contribute, but I think of you all often. Nancy Barry

Anonymous said...

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/10/25/arts/television/25wood.html?_r=1&oref=slogin

Anonymous said...

Well said Susanna! Great practical suggestions to help coordinate the many offers of help that are sure to come!

Anonymous said...

Dear Sharyn and Caleb:

Finally the home stretch...your journey has been incredible and one with a happy ending...as an outsider looking in,I so happy that I saw the signs this summer and found my way to this blog...as I have said before your words have been a true inspiration to me to look at life in a much more positive way through the eyes of my kids, family and friends...hopefully when you are sitting in the quiet of your home surround by family you will feel the magnitude of what you have been through and how truly uplifting you were (are) to so many...selfishly I would love the blog to continue and hear about Caleb's recovery but what ever maybe will be and my thoughts and postive energy will still be sent to you for healing and peace...and once you guys have an idea of how to keep this going or end it...I am sure we (outsiders) will know...until then...

Irish Blessing

May the road rise to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face.
And rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the hollow of His hand.


May you live as long as you want,
And never want as long as you live.


Always remember to forget
The things that made you sad.
But never forget to remember
The things that made you glad.

Always remember to forget
The friends that proved untrue.
But never forget to remember
Those that have stuck by you.

Always remember to forget
The troubles that passed away.
But never forget to remember
The blessings that come each day.


Good luck to you and may your smile be covered with your bright red lipstick...

A Happy mom in Maryland

Tracy in the Berkshires, Ma. said...

Have you ever read a book or watched a film that SO Moved you, That So inspired you, That SO motivated you to see the world through new eyes....and as you came to the final chapter you felt a deep melancholic sadness that you were reaching the end.....That those character's you had come to know and love would only live in your memory and heart.
That I believe is a little like the way us "strangers" feel right now....
We don't want this to be the final chapter.........and it isn't.....not in the least.
Because we know how this story ends...It ends with you all returning to YOUR LIVES, YOUR LIVES!
You have a community of people that are there for you and Caleb as you return home and should you need to continue the blogg, because it serves you as a place to share and vent, you will.... and we will be here. But if you find that it feels like a burden or obligation then you should move on to the next phase of your life and the healing journey your family and Caleb is on....fact is you have your work cut out for you....as does Caleb.
Because of Caleb's accident and this blogg you have all become a bit celebrity (Rock Stars I'd say). We have all had backstage passes.....and that has been wonderful...but we are not with the band and we know that......
should you feel us groupies fill a need, invite us backstage once in a while....if not get on the bus with the roadies and go home!....Home, the most healing place we know.
And as a women, as a mother, as a human living on this spinning planet you know "TRUST"....TRUST in your heart, in your spirit, in your motives, in your decisions.There is NO wrong only what IS.....
AS for returning to normal(home)
it will all fall in to place....you will set boundaries, make schedules, call in help when needed . I have been thinking of Kai's wanting to leave school, a part of me thought, NO...bad idea, but then I put myself in his place and I understood his wanting to be there supporting, helping and sharing in Caleb's ultimate recovery.....Its not the worst idea,hardly....and college is not going anywhere....he can return when he is ready and wanting.....His spending time with you and Caleb and Max could be far more rewarding to him personally and all of you than any lectures he may be missing at school.He,ll know what he needs to do......TRUST...and let him decide.

Sharyn it has been a long road you are on, I feel blessed in your sharing it. Caleb, I have come to adore you and all the people who surround you....why because you are part of a bigger picture, one that we all cherish, one that we all live......Life.
be well and keep smiling pretty.

Anonymous said...

For sharing your journey with us, we owe you more than we can repay.

You owe us nothing.

Please go home in peace. And stop blogging for a while -- right now. Put us on a Caleb news fast. Those who understand will understand.

It's one of the many things you can do to insure some privacy at this important time.

Anonymous said...

HOME
SWEET
HOME
XOXOXOXO

Anonymous said...

Sharyn,

I'm another Internet friend who checks this blog every day and constantly thinks of you.

Everyone is correct in saying that you're right in protecting your privacy. Screen your calls. Don't answer the door if you don't want to. If people get upset, that's THEIR problem, not yours.

But don't ever be shy about asking for help. People want to cook for you. They can run errands, too. They can do laundry. Whatever you need. Think of some tangible ways that your life could be made easier...and look to your terrific group of friends and family to help. Don't be shy.

It's all about Caleb, but it's about taking care of yourself, too!

--with warm thoughts on this chilly day in New York

Anonymous said...

Tracy in the Berkshires says it so beautifully, so perfectly. All that I have to add today is that Sharyn, I have the utmost respect and admiration for you. You have demonstrated to us over and over again the most amazing courage and grace. You have taught me a tremendous amount over these last few months, you have given so freely of yourself and I know that you and yours will continue to receive the love and support that you truly deserve through this next phase of your healing. I keep thinking about what it felt like to bring home my newborn baby from the hospital for the first time. (oh, so many years ago...) The joy, the fear, the uncertainty...it will be much the same for you this time around, but know that your wisdom will carry you through. You will find your rhythm once again.

I, too, am happy to assist your family in anyway that is helpful. Much love sent your way tonight and always.

Audrey

Anonymous said...

My Dear Sharyn,

YOur wish is our command!

We are here to love, support, encourage. From the sound of your words, you were comforted, Caleb was encouraged and both lifted to a better place. We ALL benefitted!

What an extreme pleasure it has been to be part of your extended cyber-family. And what an exquisite family you have...all of you have shown such grace. It is humbling, in so many ways.

Just let us know what you and Mr. Caleb Von Potter need.

Much Love,

Blessings this night,

Melinda

Anonymous said...

Dear Sharyn, What may have started as an efficient way to get information to a lot of people at once has become a group love letter. At last, in your hands and w/ your voice, technology has been put to its highest use.
Now don't forget that old fashioned telephone if you need anything. David W.