This night, not unlike many others, Caleb and I are alone for dinner. Kai is off with his beautiful and lovely inside Lizzy and Max is off fishing at the gut waiting for his equally lovely Laira to get off of work ... so Caleb and I are standing together at the kitchen sink shucking corn and rubbing the fine silk off of it, slicing into the first juicy home grown tomato and talking about how delicious dinner will be when he phophetically announces " but when it is done..it is finished."
Which brings to mind my feelings about life in genenral...we have had some really rough moments, some incredibly difficult days, some notorious nosedive nights, monumental months ..and still I want to wake each morn with a renewed look at life.. I want to figure out my demonds and face my foibles and realize that yes .. when we are done, we are finished - so why not try to get it right this time around... I am a the perfect example of a life gone wrong... I thought that I had it figured out, I was soooooo together, I knew with certanty that I was certain......what a farse this silly little life of mine....
I sat today with Caleb, rubbing his head as he tried to fall asleep, my hand sliding over his bumpy railroad track of raised skin scars...and I said to myself - I want to get off at this stop - where all things are well.. he looks like the same ole Caleb I remember and want - but I do not get to choose...this is what I have to work with--- so work with it ...and remember that when it is done - it is finished....
so laugh away the days and find peace with what is ... and love .... just love!
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On the fourth of July, 2007 Caleb Potter was involved in a skateboarding accident.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.
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In this season of giving thanks and celebrating family togetherness, I wish to extend a warm thank you to everyone who has been involved in a myriad of ways with my son, Caleb Potter, and his recovery. On July 4, he was involved in a skateboarding accident in our little hometown of Wellfleet on Cape Cod, that caused him serious injuries. He came home from Spaulding Rehab in Boston just before Thanksgiving. Through the blog we started:
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Sharyn L. Lindsay and family
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13 comments:
Sharyn,
Things did go wrong. You met the challenge and continue to do so. It is not easy as you write but you do laugh and you have so much love in you. You are what they call a 'survivor' and stronger for it.
Consider yourself hugged.
so true
you are a survivor, and so is caleb....
when i read your words, sometimes they move me so much that i cry... and i never feel likei give enough back to you....enough to let you know how much i think of you and your family every single day of my life... and i still have only met you! praying for and caring for a family that i basically only know thru this blog....
be well... be still in this moment that you treasure...
you truly do enjoy the high points to the fullest, every word you write is dripping with the love that you have for this boy... for your family.
you are an inspiration to me and i want to be just like you when i grow up :)
peace and prayers to you
amy in ct
Sharyn, What an amazing post. I have been through NOTHING compared to you and your family, but if I was as eloquant of a writer and changed a few names and specifics your post could tell my life. There is a theme in it all. You inspire me - take some additional strength in knowing you have OBVIOUSLY given a LOT of us following your story inspiration, hope and courage!
Sharyn,
That you survive the journey and still write so well speaks accolades to your persona!
Kevin
The Pennsylvania Dutch have a saying that can be found printed on almost every little chachka that they sell at the tourist shops: 'Too soon old, too late smart' As I have gotten older I have finally figured out that damn, they're right! Too late smart!
But, dear Sharyn, you still have the glow of youth around you, both figuratively and literally, surrounded by your wonderful boys, and we all have many years ahead of us to find "smart". Your 'smart' was forced on you by a series of horrific events that would leave most people quivering in a corner.....there was something in in the silly little farce as you put it, that prepared you to weather these events and come through the other side to the place you are now. So don't discount your past so quickly! we are none of us finished yet, all still works in progress...
I was blown away by our serendipitous meeting in the parking lot by Hatches...there were a series of events that led up to me being there at that moment, and not an hour sooner......it was wonderful to get a hello and a proper hug (cyber hugs are not quite the same). And the same goes for you, Kai, a chance meeting, and a hello and a hug....please pass it on to Caleb. I wish I'd had more time on the Cape for a real visit.
Love and hugs to you all!
As always, with hope,
peg from PA
Oh girlfriend, your life has had its funny moments, but far from a farce. You are having a very full life and there is not one of us who at one time or another thought we had it figured out, only to discover there was more. To Caleb's quote I would add: When it is done, it is finished, and then there will be more. Love, El
Sharyn
--you join the rest of humanity whose lives are really many act plays, some more farcelike, comedic or dramatic...I have said to myself about my own life-"Am I just in the audience and did this ever happen?" Finding joy and happiness in whatever form possible for the remainder of our days should be in the forefront(working on that one) and you are doing that...maybe in snippets, some hidden in the nosedives, but your writings show it all...I think that the constant reaching for the little joys(when it is no easy to see the possibility) is part of centering and sometimes takes great creativity and focus, but it is worth it for that moment. I join you on that 24/7 voyage.
I have thought long and hard over the years of how much I would like to do over...how foolish I was at a younger age and like you questioned what I had been living.
But as I continued to think about it, if I was given the chance to do it over and do it right I am not sure how I would sort out the useful from the not, the character building from the not. Except for occasions of not doing well by others the rest is so intertwined.
Had you not had the experiences of the past- the good, the bad, the fun, the painful- would you have been so grounded and so prepared (if one can be) to weather what life has dished out the in past year and in the future to come? Would your guys be as well adjusted as they seem?
Our lives all seem to be something of a goulash in progress and as we add another ingredient we just continue to adjust the seasoning but aren't sure how it will turn out. But I know I prefer things with a lot of flavor and it seems like you do too.
So keep smiling, enjoying those good moments and laugh. There's alot of cooking to come before the stew is finished. Yes when it is over it is over and it may not be perfect but it will sure be original.
AMEN Sister!
I think that's "IT". You are living It. It'S GRATITUDE. GRATITUDE for any and everything at your fingertips, today, and always.
Just remember how powerful your thoughts are, and how you are the architect of your reality. I hear it in your words interspersed with wonder and questioning. Join the club. Everyday is a new opportunity to learn and grow. And, just when you thought you had "IT", something happens to increase the awareness and there you go, evolving once again. I hope that is the good news, because sometimes those stretch marks really are painful. Dear Sharyn, we are all in this together....the ebb and flow of life can be bittersweet, but isn't it all about balance~and how we strive for it. Sometimes we "hit" the mark, and other times not....but we try anyway, right?
YOU continue to be an inspiration and guide to so many. Doesn't matter that you ARE perfect, but that you strive to be all that you can be, and that's what I think is important.
Caleb is doing the same, though it may not appear so. He is being all that he can be. So, who knows where that benchmark starts or ends, only Caleb knows, and he is doing the best he can do. We can learn much from your dear and valiant son about patience, endurance,grace, courage and unconditional love.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insights. I find them so very helpful and encouraging....like the cosmic "glue" that connects us all.
Know that you are loved and admired.
Be well my friend,
Con abrazos and besitos de Mari y Melinda
Dear Sharyn,
To me, the only perfect example you are is that of a woman gone right -- you've been "going right" long before Caleb was hurt, and will continue long, long after as well. Thanks for bringing us with you. love, Lisa K.
A quick PS to Kevin....it was truly a delight to meet you too! Wish we all could have had a seat outside your shop and had a good long gab!
peg from PA
When it is done...it is finished.
I know he is changed, and I think I understand and hear and feel your constant struggle....why, why why. But it is like Caleb says - it is done - it is finished - and now you are starting over....with your boy with bumpy railroad track scars on his head....it is done....but HE IS HERE. He is struggling to find the words, the correct words for the correct thoughts - and he has his Mumsie by his side - to make sense of his struggles and to tell him that he's right - when it's done, it's finished. That's a mother's job - to let her children know they are heard..and you do that SO spectacularly Sharyn.
You already have it right THIS time around Sharyn - last time I checked, your Mumsie-ing skills were the finest I know. Now THAT is a life worth living - and it is absolutely filled with LOVE!!!!
In the end, when we are ALL done....we are finished, and you can and SHOULD always know that you were the best Mom in the world - shucking corn with your boy....side by side, as you always have been - side by side - no matter what.
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