On the fourth of July, 2007 Caleb Potter was involved in a skateboarding accident.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.

Tuesday, April 29, 2008

My young men are so impassioned with a desire to understand their dad and his circumstances, that I now am able to relieve tension with a blown out tire sigh, and trust that they will chart their course..a healing course.

We are preparing our pilgrimage to Western Ma. for the end of May when Kai will graduate from U Mass. Max has just applied to a program at U Mass for next year, so we are excited about the prospects of his getting accepted.

There have been many late night talks by candlelight, many smiles, many tears, laughter and desolation; but the talks always end on a positive, rather that negative note.

Caleb and I have decided that the focus right here, right now will again go back to him. He was bowling again last night and he kicked the proverbial butts playing against Max and Timmy, who are seasoned bowlers. I always get a chuckle out of that, and they are gracious about losing.. The end of May, when Kai returns full time to home and the landscape business, we will be joining the local health club to get rid of that tummy that Caleb picked up from all the home cooked meals that all of our friends dropped by on a regular basis. Looking down just now makes me realize....mom's got one to work off as well!

I am looking forward to more Kayaking, more bike rides, more rejoicing.

Through all of this hectic activity of late, I am noticing that time somehow still slows down a bit..and the focus of our lives goes automatically to those who are needing it. It is lovely, simply lovely, to be able to stop in our paths, to be able to witness the treasures that sit right in front of us..and to simply cherish.

Be well ... as we are

Mumsie

25 comments:

blackbird said...

That's the only way to be, Sharyn -
you teach me every day.

susan in portsmouth said...

You continue to astonish me.
I am, as ever, sending you

Big Love.

Amy said...

Sharyn, As you have so many other times, you have brought tears to my eyes. Too many times those tears have been tears of pain, of sadness, of sympathy. But often, as today, they are tears of joy. Tears caused by the power of your love and your compassion and your faith and hope in humankind and in life. How do you do it? You are such an inspiration. I know that you have and will have those darker moments, but when you see the light, you make us ALL see the light.

Congratulations on Kai's graduation. For him to have stuck through it this year with all that has happened is quite remarkable. A real testament to his own strength ---- the strength that you and Jan instilled in him. If you need anything while in western MA, please give me a call!

Amy from western MA

Claus said...

Sharyn, Wonderful news, it sounds like a good day. You have a great perspective on life. As much as you are an inspiration to many of the people who visit this blog site, it is clear to see you have also had (and continue to have) a profound influence on your boys. They are truly blessd to have a mother like you. Keep building on the positive, as you are experiencing, time is allowing some clarity, focus, and ever so slowly some healing. Continue biking,hiking, walking etc.. it feels great, is a good release, and a good time to put thoughts "in order" and see things in a different light.
Big Hug,
Love,
Claus

lisa b said...

sharyn you all sound so much better.i was holding my breath for a while...
i am so relieved to hear your sigh all the way over in our neck of the woods! love to you and yours today..

Elizabeth B. said...

Sharyn, Your words speak volumes about the ebbs and flows of a motherhood full of love, heartache, and sheer determination. I'm so glad to hear you're making plans and setting goals no matter how big or small. It does keep one moving on a path rather than laying stagnant hoping that things will get better on their own. You've always made good things happen Sharyn. You add beauty to this world and impart your wisdom on your sons.
Congratulations to Kai on his academic achievements and enjoy your journey westward!

Hugs,
Elizabeth

Jeff- in the Berkshires said...

Sharyn,
So good to hear this all. Many congratulations to Kai on his graduation and sticking with it through this tough year. Enjoy you trip to Amherst. It is a brilliant spring in the happy valley.

Sounds like you are on your way to some sense of normalcy and it is good to slow down a bit and smell the sea air.
Continue to witness the treasures that sit right in front of you. There are so many.

Unknown said...

Amen Sister!

Anonymous said...

And so it goes, time spins away, loves are lost, loves are found, desperate grief morphs into tentative accommodation, and eventual acceptance, never forgetting but soon forgiving, finding the divine within ourselves, while honoring the divinity of those with whom we share our lives.... You are all ever in my thoughts, with prayers for peace and heart's ease. Well on your way, I believe....
As always, with hope,
peg from PA

susan said...

Sharyn, look how far your spirit has come since your post of last Wednesday! This blog is your personal journal, your journey, and you will be able to see and understand all that you and your family has overcome
simply by going back chapter by chapter and rereading all that you have put on paper (sic). The best part, is that you have feedback and encouragement from friends that you may never meet, a huge cyber hug every day and night!
I used to encourage my sons to keep journals, it is a wonderful tool for growth and inspiration. Keep it going as long as you can, the future is an open book that we live in by learning from our past.
Love to you all, Maga

nancyk4444 said...

Sharyn,

What a smile you just put on my face - as I walk beside on the road.
Keep goin' girl.....one foot after the other!

Love to you and your MEN
Nancy in NY

amy in ct said...

what a beautiful wonderful life you all have, what a loving caring family you are part of.
i am SO happy that max is applying, that is fantastic news!
and kai is graduating, what a joyous reason to take a trip across state.
i am glad caleb is kicking butt too, kevin was not playing this time around??
i sit here in my room and think of all of you... up there in that beautiful place called wellfleet, and hope that tonight you are well. tonight you are calm and peaceful and know that we are all still thinking of you every day.
my prayers to you that you continue to grow and have more good days than bad, more smiles than tears.
peace and prayers to you all
amy in ct

NY/Wellfleet Mom said...

CONGRATULATIONS, KAI!

Max, I'm keeping my fingers crossed for your acceptance to UMass.

Caleb, keep on kickin' butt!

Sharyn, I can feel the warmth of your mood radiating out through my computer screen.

Wishing all of you peace and health and happiness.

NY/Wellfleet Mom

tim bob said...

Sharyn- just to let you know, I'm not gonna be losing any sleep over your phantom "gut".

indeed....

deirdre said...

oh sharyn...
there is hope & love & the sun always rises.
i am thankful to witness you all & be part of this blessed circle.
xoxoxoxo

penny on st.john said...

Good news Sharyn,

Many congrats to Kai and I'm keeping my fingers crossed for Max.

I remember a long time ago I was trying to understand something about my father and because some things are just not easily "understood" I decided to try to accept it(my mother's suggestion) but even that didn't really satisfy or answer my questions because how in the world can you accept something you don't understand?It leaves you with an empty feeling of not being able to do a damned about it---it still happens/happened, there it is! done! What I am trying to convey is that essentially there are no answers and we have to find something within us,individually, to help ease the pain of it all and then there is the element of time which will soften the edges.

There's a lot of goodness left in the world and we must not miss it.

You are so strong and those boys are a reflection of that strength. The load will lighten each day and tomorrow the sun will rise.

You have my deepest respect and I send love and peace to you all.

becky said...

What beautiful words and thoughts!

Lisa said...

Sharyn,
Sounds like a good day and a very busy summer ahead. I continue to think about you all and pray for you daily

Unknown said...

Ah Sharyn,

Brighter days are ahead...it's good to hear your voice and to know that love will always prevail.

Thinking of you all each and everyday and hoping that you continue to heal and grow stronger with each passing moment.

Keep on keepin' on...it's all you can do-
Audrey

Anonymous said...

"Be well, as we are"... musical words, SO lovely to hear. :D


Yahoo for Kai and Max! That's exciting news!
Yahoo for Caleb! I can never bowl with any consistency...a strike is just as likely to be followed by a gutterball.
I'm really looking forward to seeing you all, soon (I'll be home next month).
It seems like your family, like the Cape, is headed into Spring...
xoxo

Mike from CT said...

Sharyn,

I had the privelege of attending Jan's memorial service and I was deeply moved by the gathering. Although I don't know you or your family, it was awesome to see you and your boys as you walked into the parking lot at Newcomb Hollow. The sound of the ocean was coming through the speakers of the PA system as you took your places at the front of the rows of seats. When one of the speakers referred to Jan as Jan, Janus, Potterus, Genius, Maximus - there was not a dry eye in the crowd, my own included. I've been following Caleb's blog since last summer and I was fortunate to be visiting my sister during the weekend of the service. Not a dat goes by that I don't read all of your wonderful and inspiring entries.
Jeff Lewis was an awesome speaker. Very poignant and dignified. Could you let me know if he is based in Wellfleet? The reason I ask is that I'm getting re-married this Fall in Eastham and I was wondering if Jeff could be involved in my wedding.
Thanks again Sharyn for being such an inspiration to us all.

amy in ct said...

i hope all is well up there in wellfleet these days. have not seen a new post in a few days and i always wonder how you all are doing.
peace and prayers
amy in ct

Susanna said...

To be well and cherish the present is such good advise for all of us but especially good advise for people who are grieving. Grief has a will of it's own and comes and goes as it pleases but living fully present and being well is what those who loved us would want us to do.

Christa said...

Sharyn...mom is sitting here with me tonight and she has been following the blog with me since last Aug. She sends her best! Love ya and just remember...we all feel the same sunlight...it feels good and it keeps us warm & helps us grow!

Love and Peace,
Christa & Mama Jones
Wilmington, NC

Kevin Scalley said...

Sharyn,

Keep going forward with the positive energy!

OMG! First it was your "butt" and now it's your "gut". I've been noticing how really bad you have been letting yourself go these days... I am sure there are 20 year old girls that would love to look so bad like you!

;-))

Kevin