On the fourth of July, 2007 Caleb Potter was involved in a skateboarding accident.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.

Wednesday, November 7, 2007

Report from the Homefront

Caleb, Mom and I just finished a tasty, home cooked dinner. Spudly dog and Boof (the cat) sitting at our feet, waiting for something to fall into their awaiting mouthes. All the normal sounds, smells and sights that make a house home surround us. This is where Caleb will heal. He had a pretty good day today. We woke up early, showered and ate breakfast and then set off on a walk. Calebs walking seems even more comfortable and natural on the grounds where he first learned how. Most fleet kids are so used to walking on dirt that we actually walk crooked when you put us on a level floor. We walked with spudly out to Dire pond, all the while talking and telling the kinds of stories that start with "do you remember the time" and end in everyone laughing. I think this is the kind of stuff that is really getting things turning- to have all these reminders around that stir up memories and emotions, even if only subconsciously. Things are going well here and it is just so good to see my boy smiling, talking and laughing at home. I was lying in bed last night, listening to the sounds of Caleb breathing. I was thinking how I almost lost that sound, how we were all so close to never hearing that sound again. All I could do was lie there and love that sound, coming from a few feet away in the perfect dark that surrounds our home at night, and just love it with every bit of my heart.

Mom wanted me to mention that there is a meeting at our house this sunday at one for all who are interested in being closely involved in calebs recovery. she says that to get in, you have to bring at least one bottle of wine.

51 comments:

Anonymous said...

Who wrote today's blog? Kai? I couldn't really tell...but whom ever it was...well said. We are all so happy to be able to hear "that sound", see that smile, and feel that love that Caleb radiates. :)

Chris and I would love to be part of Caleb's recovery. Let us know how we can help! We will definately see you at 1pm on Sunday...Wine? Anything else? See you then.

Nicole M. :)

Anonymous said...

Dear Caleb, Sharyn and the extended Potter/Lindsay clan. We have a camper in Maurie's Campground and have been following your story since the accident happened. It brought tears to my eyes when I saw the photo from the Cape Cod Times. There is nothing I love more than being snuggled in my house (or my camper) with my family. Good for you for being so strong and bringing your baby home. You have been our thoughts and prayers, all of you. Wellfleet is such a wonderful place, and I am not surprised by the outpouring of support and love given by this town. Although it will be May before our campground opens, we come up quite often and stay in local establishments because we can't stay away. We'll continue to fly our pirate flag on our little dirt road in North Attleboro and hope to hear wonderful things from the blog and when we visit Wellfleet again in a couple of weeks. God Bless all of you......... (p.s. We want to order a shirt or two, so I will look for that)....

Anonymous said...

Kai,
Your post really got to me...I think maybe it was the strength and depth of the sibling bond you so eloquently expressed. It's something that parents stand back and watch with awe and gratitude. Hope you're feeling better, too.
Cheers to all of you,
Paula (Abby's mom)

Anonymous said...

Are we going to be able to order shirts etc. online? That would be awesome!

Any video from Caleb's homecoming

I'm sure Sharyn's soothing spirit, Jan's deep love, Kai's unbelievable guidance and Max's pillar of strength and support are the number one aspect to Caleb's healing. You are an amazing, AMAZING group of people...thank you.

I read the blogs to my children and they always have sweet, little comments about your family..."I like them a lot", "they really love each other", etc. The Potter/Lindsay family is showing my children how to be compassionate, supportive,loving,peaceful people in the world and that is the greatest gift to a mother.

Anonymous said...

I am wondering if Mumsie brought
home one of those nurse's outfits
she admires so. I hope rather she is in some comfy pajamas surrounded
by warm bread, gentle breathing and brotherly love.
xoxoxo, kolleen

Anonymous said...

P.S and bedtime stories.....

Anonymous said...

There's no place like home. There's no place like home. There's no place like home. I am so happy Caleb and Sharyn are back there with you.
Kai, I'm glad you are feeling better, walking around and enjoying every minute of the time you are all sharing now. I wish I could be there with you on Sunday, but I am flying off to CA to meet my nephew. I will have to plan a trip up to the Cape to see you all soon. Until then thanks for keeping us posted on the progress.
Have a glass of wine and some oysters for me. Let me know if there is anything I can do for you guys from NY.
Love to all,
Kim

Anonymous said...

What a perfect day :)!!! It is amazing how much strength and comfort we find in the "everyday" things that make up our life...and may we never take them for granted...

annapolis mom!

Anonymous said...

I love that image of you (Sharyn? Kai? Max?) listening to Caleb breathing. That says it all. Every breath is so sweet when you think of how precious life is, how fragile it can be, how sweet it is.

It gives me peace to think of you all, listening to each other breathe.

Anonymous said...

I can't believe how much this blog makes me want to pack my family up and move from Boston surburbs to the Fleet. I've been vacationing there only for the past two years, but immediately felt the magic of that great town. And now this! Caleb will have a great and wonderful life with a group like all of you around him.

PhilB

Anonymous said...

what a beautifully written report from the homefront that was!
it warmed the cockles of my heart...it's so nice to picture you all taking a walk to the pond on a gorgeous day and having a nice meal together, I bet there were times that you felt that day was a long time away, but here it is!! So glad to hear that there's so much healing going on there!
Sharyn- I think you'd better ask some of your meeting attendees to bring some extra wine racks, or maybe dig you a new wine cellar to store all your gifts and entrance fees!
home sweet home...

Anonymous said...

Thanks Kai for that lovely post. That is a pretty long walk to Dyer Pond for two guys who just got out of the hospital. I agree that all the familiar sights, sounds and stories can help bring things back together for Caleb. Like your mom once said, losing Caleb was not an option.

Anonymous said...

Hi Sharyn,
I can't be there on Sunday. We are preparing for Tom's heart surgery on the 19th then off to FL for our own recovery time. I do want to help and will keep in touch thru Nicole, Chris and the blog until I return from FL with my hubby in May. Maybe by that time there will be a need for a changing of the guards.

Our prayers are always with you and yours.

Judith's Mom

Anonymous said...

Kai, tears of gratitude are still welling up as I write. Thank you for your post. Your words so eloquently captured the day. It is they kind of day I've prayed for all of you since the start of this adventure. And there will be more and better! Love, Ellen W.

Anonymous said...

i am so glad you are all home where you belong. you are right... how close you all were to loosing this wonderful person... and now he is home, having meals with family..... walking and talking about the 'remember when's'....

you are all in my thoughts... be well.
amy in ct

Anonymous said...

Kai, your words extend beyond your years. The love you have for your brother is undeniable. Thank you so much for your post, and for brightening my day.

Everyone is on the mend, you are home for the holidays, and life is good.

Enjoy the wine and friends on Sunday. I can't wait to hear the outcome.
Pictures please from your walks and the doggie.

J

Anonymous said...

Hey Kai,

Great to hear your "Voice". Tell Max to be careful. I already did! You guys are giving her and your Dad quite the test...Where can I get some wine for Sunday?

Kevin

Anonymous said...

Kai, that was a beautiful post. I saw you and felt you and Caleb walking, talking, laughing. I feel blessed all over again to have been able to follow Caleb's story from the beginning of this long hard road. The power of your love, combined with your humor and openness, makes you all one incredibly inspiring family!

Pam, a Mum in VT

Anonymous said...

LOVE YOU GUYS

Anonymous said...

Kai, that is a beautifully written post, right up to the standard of your last one. I'm sure the brain is getting jogged by the familiar sights, sounds, and smells of the home ground. The stimulation is important and if there's something that family is good it, it's stimulation. The Town feels more settled these days now that you're all here. Even old ladies recover from appendectomies quite easily these days so I knew you would be fine.

Anonymous said...

Potter Family,
I just want to say that i cant make it to the meeting, but if you need ANYTHING just let me know. Im sure you have tons of people helping you out and that will come to your meeting, but if you need anything else that isnt fulfilled, let me know. I established a Veterans Memorial in Truro and the unveiling is this Sunday (thats why i cant make it), but im SO excited.
So let me know if you need anything, plus i definitely want to order a sweatshirt!

XoXo
Zana

Anonymous said...

Thanks Kai - can't wait to meet you, now that I've finally met your Mom and Max. I would imagine Sunday will be filled with all your old friends and you'll have plenty of help - but just keep me in mind, please - I'm here and will keep alert to anything I can do to be there for you all.
Claire

Anonymous said...

Kai, you steamy basta@%d!

I SO wish I could be on the cape, be at the meeting, and be closely involved in Caleb's healing process.

I will be sending my healing vibes from Colorado...

Anonymous said...

I remember when my son was born. I was lying in bed listening to my daughter (then 3) and my newborn breathe together. There is nothing better. May the breath of our loved ones keep us strong and happy!

Anonymous said...

I'm so happy you're all back home where you belong, Kai. Your post was sweet beyond belief. Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts.

love,
Mia

Anonymous said...

KAI!!! Get back into that pocket!!! Hope you are feeling as well as possible after the other nights adventure to the hospital...when it rains it pours!! *Glad you are okay* I am soooo happy to hear that you are all back together again. What a miracle. And a breath of relief. After all that you have been through it must feel so amazing to have your family back to the homestead, together in spirit and in person. As a sibling of three I can relate to that indispensable bond and love between you three. There is nothing like it. I am very touched by all of the positivity that has become so prevalent in your hearts and souls through all of this. It is amazing and admirable. I wish you all well and wish that I could be at the meeting but am stuck up in the mountains, anticipating snow...great.yay. I am a fleetian beach bum not a mountain woman...however... love you all and am very happy for you and proud of you all. Rock on....arrrrggghhhhhh!!! Continue healing and loving and playing and laughing...the best rememdy. Enjoy ur meeting:) and enjoy that wine:)
~Corey~

Anonymous said...

Love you family..
Glad to hear Leb's feet are back on Fleetian soil, & you all are chattin about the good ol' days, there are so many cherished memories within!

Missing you all, & wishing nothing but the best for my dear family/friends!
Xo.. Clance, & family.

Anonymous said...

Caleb's so lucky to have you Kai.
I'm sure the walks will do wonders
for both his physical and mental recovery. Another wonderful post.
Thank you!

Tracy in the Berkshires, Ma. said...

so nice to hear the warmth of your post.
and glad you are feeling well.
I thought about the fact you wanted to be near Caleb during his at home recovery, funny how we get what we want....sometimes we have to be more specific in our desires when asking the universe for things....since I am sure you didn,t mean recovering in the bed next to him.

Anonymous said...

Nice to hear Kai's "voice" - glad all is going well.

Wish I were close enough to join you on Sunday - and every other day that you might need a helping hand!

I'll send my best energy your way instead - and if the bottle that made it's way to you yesterday is empty you might have to have Kevin call me for another contribution! It's the least (really) that I can do!

Love to you all -

Susan

Anonymous said...

I can only hope that my young sons turn out like the Potter boys!

Anonymous said...

I think that is every mother's wish.

Anonymous said...

Kai...I heard the comforting sound of Caleb's breathing coming through the pure love emanating from your post and it warmed every bit of my heart. So very sweet, thank you.
peg from PA

Sky said...

kai that was beautiful. no one tells it like you do. thank you for sharing a piece of your heart with all of us.
love you lad,
sky

Anonymous said...

see you on sunday. kev, do they make tequilla wine? oxoxo

Jeff- in the Berkshires said...

Kai,
You bring alive the image of closely entwined siblings, connected at many levels. I am sure the being together and being able to do things that are "normal" is helping the whole family heal.
Hope you are also feeling better.

Sharyn, we bloggers stand ready for assignments coming out of your Sunday meeting. I might have a bit of wine at the appointed hour to be with you in spirit if not in body. :)

Unknown said...

I will make a toast to all the fleetians tomorrow at the local brewery. WOuld you prefer wine or beer...I am up for both.

much love and hugs, alita:) xoxox

Anonymous said...

Kai,

Like your mother, you too, are a beautiful writer. I'm glad to hear that you are healing along with Caleb. You and Caleb have such an amazing bond, really a love that will transgress time. Your relationship reminds me so much of my brother and myself, one breathed in the other breathed out. He tragically passed away twelve years ago at the very early age of 32 and my life although changed forever, is still so full of all the amazing memories I have of him. He still makes me laugh daily. He was so vibrant, crazy, personable, we used to say he had the Midas touch, whatever kookie idea he came up with turned to gold. He was the person I could trust with my life, he was the person I would give my life for. I guess what I am trying to relay, is that you are so blessed to have the connection that you have with Caleb, you guys are in the "brother zone"...

One more thing for everybody out there today- Make sure you pick up a copy of today's Cape Codder newspaper, there is a most gorgeous very large color picture of Caleb and Sharyn on the front page. What a treat to see how beautiful Caleb is looking, it looks like he's filling out with Mumsie's great cooking.

Much love and healing to you all,
Audrey

Anonymous said...

That sound of Caleb breathing is something you have always known. Caleb is your mighty tree of a damn amazing big brother! He is so much of why YOU are the perfectly pocket-sized presence of KAI that we all know and love. And he is rooted here in Wellfleet... There was a second there not too long ago when we all thought we wouldn't hear those breaths, but it just seemed so outlandish that there wouldn't be Caleb anymore. I couldn't quite wrap my brain around the entire thought to think it through...(yeah, say THAT one 5 times fast!) It just wasn't an option. ever.
there is so much love in this beautiful little town. I am honored to call Wellfleet home. Yarrrr mates!!! I love you all.

Anonymous said...

Ye 'ole Wigwam sounds more normal! We are happy for you all...........
We want to order up a sweatshirt for Peter but don't know if medium or large will be best. Talk soon. Hugs Natale

Alycia said...

Kai, I read this yesterday and thought it was so beautifully written--the idea of Caleb learning to walk again on the same ground he learned to walk on as a baby; the "do you remember the time" stories, and the laughter; and most especially your wonderful gratitude for the sound of Caleb's breathing. Last night after a particularly stressful day (but nothing like you guys have been dealing with since July 4!) I fell into bed and just before I drifted off to sleep I heard the sound of my husband's breathing, and the dog snoring in his own bed, and the cat purring in her spot between my husband and me, and I thought of Caleb and Kai snug in their home and I just suddenly felt so blessed. Thank you, Kai, for pointing out the important stuff in life. As someone else wrote, you are wise beyond your years.

Anonymous said...

I just heard that Edie Sweet ( Barbara Jordan's cousin) died in a car accident. Her daughter Suzanne was in the car but survived. I know many of you know her daughter Anna. Edie was the loveliest woman, I am beside myself.

Anonymous said...

Please keep Anna and Sue in your prayers, this is a very tragic day and we have lost an amazing woman and mom, Edie Sweet

Anonymous said...

I am also so sad to hear of Edie's tragic accident. I don't know Suzanne but have known and loved Anna for years. She is such a sweet young woman. My heart aches for these two girls who just lost their mom. Cortney

Anonymous said...

chopper is live RIGHT NOW Saturday 1:56 on the food radio show !!!! being interviewed on 94.3. HOW COOL

xoxo,settie

rosie said...

I am coming up tomarrow night. I need some Wellfleet healing. I am sad today and I hope I feel better tomarrow. I love you guys!

Anonymous said...

GOD BLESS EDIE SWEET

Anonymous said...

Greetings to all of you. It is with a very heavy heart that I write these words because this morning Amy (daughter) called and told me of Edie's tragic,heart breaking accident. So I am with mixed emotions. Happy that you are all together and the healing at home has begun and sad because Edie's family is not all together. I wish I could be there on Sunday but I shall be thinking of all of you and Wellfleet and Edie's sweet girls. I wish there was something I could do--like wave a magic wand and make everything all right and all better. Peace and love. Penny on St.John.

Anonymous said...

I always thought Edie was so aptly named Sweet.

Anonymous said...

I want to say that Wellfleet is not usually a community in a state of constant sorrow. These back to back tragedy's are very unusual but the highway is inadequate and highway accidents are regular occurrences. I know this blog is about supporting Sharyn and Caleb and family but it seems now Anna and Sue need our help now also.

Anonymous said...

Kai,

We are grateful for your expressive words.

As I listen to the rain flow down on my city rooftop I smile :) I smile because no matter how far away I may be, I am now able to clearly imagine your day and lovely walk....Thank you for this friend.

"This is where Caleb will heal". Yes! Your homestead rocks this world and will manage to work it's wonders as always.

I'm sorry to hear about your appendicitis, but It seems as though you've made the most out of it...a skill in which you seem to have mastered. One of your many admirable qualities.

Sending my love to you and the family....extra loving & healing to you Leb!!!

XOXOXOXO
Lily