When you have loved... and then lost, two very distinct things happen...at least for me it has been so. You learn to love a bit harder...but the letting go becomes harder as well. It is 4 a.m. and we just opened the door and watched Kai walk away, back pack slung over the shoulder and the more important board bag in hand. ..... In the past that simple move would have been full of excited anticipation and high hopes...now it is mixed in with a large dose of fear. When you have loved and then lost it is to be expected I suppose. In a way the rawness is good , in a way it is just raw. I don't take for granted any longer that Kai will go away and come back to us..or come back at all. I hate this fear hanging around my neck like a dead weight...,it threatens to pull me down and I resist while it persists. And it remains.
Kai knows this feeling too...and as he hugs me goodbye, we lock eyes and ever so swiftly and I read all the pain in them and the concern and the wishing and the hopes.
He has hugged Max upstairs. Lizzie and I stand together... ..we know this drill well...and Caleb has dragged himself out of bed to exclaim "You lucky bastard" and to make us all laugh as he would have always done...so the scene emerges and is reminiscent of past times..one boy or another going out the door at an unGodly hour..all of us waiting in the wings.....and when it is my turn..I want to hold him and never let him go......but I open my arms....... and he walks out the door.
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On the fourth of July, 2007 Caleb Potter was involved in a skateboarding accident.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.
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In this season of giving thanks and celebrating family togetherness, I wish to extend a warm thank you to everyone who has been involved in a myriad of ways with my son, Caleb Potter, and his recovery. On July 4, he was involved in a skateboarding accident in our little hometown of Wellfleet on Cape Cod, that caused him serious injuries. He came home from Spaulding Rehab in Boston just before Thanksgiving. Through the blog we started:
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Sharyn L. Lindsay and family
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19 comments:
Safe travels to Kai. It is a testament of your love and life that he has the courage to make this journey.
Yes- all your travels seem to begin in the middle of the night- it always makes me shudder. I can completely understand your feelings, and you express them so clearly. Especially considering how much traveling you all have done and how those other feelings are so ingrained in the life of your family. We wish Kai the best on his trip, and also sending you our love and support on this next step for you. Happy New Year, we're thinking of you,
Neil and Carrie
This long journey has brought you all to a place where you don't "assume" as much anymore. The rawness an appreciation for life in its purest form as is Kai's adventurous spirit and your open arms letting him go. While painful this awareness and appreciation is such a gift and I am stilled by your sharing of these words and feelings.
So as Kai heads out for a wonderful adventure I send him bright thoughts for good travel and great surf and a fantastic experience and I send peaceful thoughts for all of you on the home front and a great big cyber hug........
Jeff
On occasion, my five year grandson, Will, has maturity well beyond his years, and squeals "GROUP HUG", just when we all seem to need it most....
I send Will's sticky fingered group hug as we all join arms and wish Kai, and all of you who stood in the doorway...a peaceful journey !!!
Ace
A belated happy New Year to everyone. Sharyn, you are such a brave woman. The letting go never gets easier, only harder as we become more and more aware of the risks in life. How long is Kai going for? Is this a vacation or a move? I wish you all a wonderful year.
That was me, Amy from western MA.
Always too many Amys.
Ah Sharyn, the poignancy of your words strike deep.... sometimes it seems as though life is one long set of good-byes : goodbye to childhood, to parents, to dear friends, to ways of life too good to last seemingly, to love... some goodbyes are permanent, and thankfully some are just 'til we meet again....Kai is going off on an adventure and as any Mom would you have to smile and wave while you say an anxious prayer at the same time...it is never easy. But as always we are by your side sending you peace of mind and good thoughts for a new phase of life beginning....also to Kai, happy travels,amazing waves, and of course, safe home.
All of my best to you,
As always, with hope,
peg from PA
Your words are vivid, powerful, and strong, Sharyn. Just like you.
Have a wonderful adventure in Bali, Kai, and a safe journey home.
NY/Wellfleet Mom
P.S. Caleb: I really loved your comment. You have great comic timing!
Dear Sharyn,
I am reminded every day, with my youngiz ages 10, 8 and 5, that it is our job as parents to prepare them to leave us. It is the best and the worst of parenthood that you have beautifully illustrated yet again.
I believe that your job now is to prepare Caleb for this. You will teach him and guide him and prepare him and one day you will stand at the door with tears of joy and feelings of accomplishment as you watch him walk sturdily on to his next chapter of growth and independence.
Love and peace,
Risa
wishing kai a wonderful journey filled with peace and lots of waves.
wishing you peace in your heart, we are with you, you can turn to all of us when you are feeling like the weight it bringing you down, and we are here to help lift you up again, as you have been here for us along this road as well.
big hugs to you and caleb and max, stay warm, another storm is coming....
amy in ct
never tooooo many amys :)
we will miss him...but what an adventure it will be! my best to all of you, and sharyn, it was wonderful to see you the other day.
xoxo e
Bon Voyage, Kai!
The hardest part is always the letting go. But as always, you know what you all must do, and you will do it well.
Hoping to send a parcel of happiness your way...
Jerry
Sharyn,
I gave your site an award over on my blog. I hope it brings even more positive energy to you and your family. Feel free to check it out,(and pass it on if you so choose)
Peace.
Hello to everyone..
I ask that all you wonderful well wishing folks say a prayer for a great guy named Chris Malatesta. He is currently in a medical induced coma in NY after suffering a bad accident. His father Allan attended one or more of Caleb's prayer circles, and this family is a wonderful, caring & special family, much in need of prayers, and positive thought for Chris.
We all have seen the magic behind prayer when Caleb suffered his accident, and it would be truly great if we all could take a moment to send them some luv, and support! Thanks SO much, have a blessed day.. and hold your loved ones near!
Kai, I hope you are riiipin it up, and can't wait to hear of the adventures! Caleb I miss you SO much, and promise to call soon!
Love to each and every one of you every day!
"but I open my arms....... and he walks out the door" I love that--isn't that what we do when we love, when we love life and all those in it--we let go because we love! Ellen
Sharyn, you always make my eyes well with tears the way you love your boys and let them go on their journeys. You are the strongest person ive ever met. I am so thankful to know you and your wonderful family. I love you all so dearly. grace
Safe journey Kai!!
Bon voyage, Kai!
Penny
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