On the fourth of July, 2007 Caleb Potter was involved in a skateboarding accident.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Sitting down the road from Caleb's therapy sipping mocha at the Chocolate Sparrow.
I spy a man who I recognize from the Club (my former life). He was always gregarious with hello's all around the room - then he, like me would settle into his workouts not wanting to converse, since we were the rather serious about working out kinds.

Somehow he looked older, shruken, and not as chipper. We exchanged hello's again and I settled into a seat next to his, waiting for Caleb's hot cocoa to go.

Soon we were sitting closer, like lover's we were face to face, not aware of anyone else in the room. He lost a son around Christmas time and he was aware of Caleb through the papers, but was not aware that Caleb belonged to me...so there we sat , eye to eye, telling our stories and finding solice in eachother....It is interesting when you can feel..actually feel another human's pain ---till now it was always- "oh I am so sorry" and then I got to walk back into my normal life. Now I sit on the edge of my chair and hang on every word and look into the pained soul who is now my mirror.
But isn't this why you are all drawn to this page - this written account of love, love lost,death, pain, strength,laughter, courage and the willful urge to go on. It is within all of us - it is us, each and everyone. ... and like lover's - you and I on this page sit looking into eachother's lives with dewey eyes and a lump in our throats, and we feed eachother the necessary ingredients of hope in order to go on.

Jenny came to Fleet last night and stayed over with us - so wonderful to see her...she is bubbly as ever and doing well. Bowling night left Kai and I on our own- so we went margarita hopping around town and found ourselves on the upper deck of one of my customer's houses (and friend) overlooking the bay ...and so high up that you might touch a star. We finally spoke openly of Jan and Caleb, our lives . Kai said when he would see Caleb's truck around town..he would park and seek him out... he said that it was like that feeling of being in love where you are only focused on seeing that one person and nothing else matters. I know it well.... we are perched across from each and every one of you out there who follow along with us and feel for us and hope for us....and I would not give up my chair for anything!

23 comments:

Lizzie in CT said...

You've taught me so much without even knowing me. Thank you.

The article about Caleb and the BoardWALK in the CC Times today is great. Caleb is looking good in the photo.

http://www.capecodonline.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20081001/NEWS/810010307

Jeff- in the Berkshires said...

Sharyn,
When I read this post I felt at chill and the realization that yeah that probably is why I and many others are drawn to this page.

As we seek to heal we are healed. As we seek to understand we are closer to being understood. When we seek to bring peace to others we become more at peace with ourselves. You are truely a healer.

Lizzie, thanks for the article link

NY/Wellfleet Mom said...

Sharyn:

There is much pain and sorrow in the world, and much joy and hope, as well. Your blog explores both ends of the spectrum, no holds barred.

Just read the Cape Cod Times online article about Caleb and the RHCI walk. Caleb looked great!

NY/Wellfleet Mom

NY/Wellfleet Mom

grace said...

The reason i come to this blog is that a truly love everyone of you and it's like were siiting down for one of our chats everytime you post. And as i always do, i leave this space with more hope, knowledge, and wisdom than before. I always wished you to be my mother sharyn, and by visiting you here and at your home, i still get to feel like your daughter, absorbing everybit of your beauty.

Unknown said...

Thank you for this beautiful entry Sharyn. You are amazing and we love you and miss you so much. I am SO excited to see Caleb and Kai and Max and you in a couple weeks. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. Mike and I are happy and well. It's raining here and we're in our cozy apartment. When you come to visit I am taking you to all the funky consignment shops and then to lunch, dinner, drinks. Caleb and Mike can cause trouble together. I love you, Katie

penny on st.john said...

Wow Sharyn, that is some entry!!

I too got a "goose-bumpy" chill and a bit of a lump in my throat. Just let me say that I feel deeply for all of you and for all of you out there in cyberspace. What a learning experience we have all had.

See you soon and I send love in the meantime.

Bless you all OUT THERE!

Penny

nancyk4444 said...

Sharyn -

I just got in from a LONG day of work - your post is simply -BEAUTIFUL. PERFECT. THE TRUTH.
All that you describe, about sharing another's pain, REALLY feeling it (which we unfortunately do better when we have experienced deep pain of our own) - the feeling of intimacy, almost like lovers.....healing and being healed....you covered it all Sharyn. I think it is called LIFE - or to me, what life is all about. Our ability to connect and feel with and for one another is what is SUPPOSED to make us human - and I am so gratefully in awe of all of the human-ness playing out here constantly. This blog of yours is an incredible place - a place that is pretty much impossible to describe to others...it is alive and a testament to what's good in people...however did it come to life????

Thanks for making me smile tonight.
You are going to be just fine.
It's perfectly clear to me.....I hope you can feel it to - or feel ME feeing it!!!!
Please give Caleb a hug and tell him it's from one of his cyber junkies!!

With love and light as always,
from New York......

Nancy

janet said...

Thank-you, Sharyn, this is lovely.
janet

blackbird said...

"you and I on this page sit looking into each others lives with dewey eyes and a lump in our throats, and we feed each other the necessary ingredients of hope in order to go on"
that's the thing...that's what binds us - you've put it, perfectly, into words.

amy in ct said...

holy crap girl, you floor me
yes...
yes ....that is why we are here
and that is why we love you and some of us have never met you.
thank god for margaritas and friends with tall back decks and long talks with the ones we love...
these little sprinkles in a day that seemed to fall together and lead you to a wonderful post for all of us to read
thank you
prayers to you
amy in ct

Kevin Scalley said...

Sharyn,

Hey ! Wait a minute here!!

I've got margaritas 'til the cows and Mexicans come home!
I've got a deck that overlooks the water! (OK, Wesley Swamp)
Plenty of parking and a shorter ride for you!

I'm mortified!

Kevin

Jennie said...

I have no words to describe how it was waking up next to caleb this morning. I do love boston but i miss him and his embrace sooo much. He has improved so much from the last time that I saw him and that is so amazing to see. His personality is definitly coming back and I never heard him laugh so much...
-love jennie

nancyk4444 said...

Thanks for that ray of sunshine Jennie.
You always come through with the BEST glimpses of Caleb!!
It's pretty amazing (and what we all continue to hope and pray for), that he can and WILL continue to make small leaps and giant bounds back to himself.
The road is certainly a long one - but as always - we are all here walking,pushing,praying,smiling and hoping for him.....he is a rich man, filled with his own INCREDIBLE strength,the strength of amazing family and friends and ....us - those cyber folks...who care so much-from a distance.
Happy Thursday AM -

Nancy in NY

NY/Wellfleet Mom said...

Nice to hear your voice, Jennie.

I'm thinking of you.

NY/Wellfleet Mom

Amy said...

Wow, what an uplifting post! Between Sharyn's wonderful insights about that thing we call humanity and a surprise post from Jennie in the comments, my day has been made. Yes, Sharyn, it is all about compassion and love. It's about putting ourselves in another's shoes.
Jennie, you sound like the most loving person imaginable. Talk about compassion...you must be the most wonderful nurse.

Amy said...

Arrghh, that was from Amy from western MA.

mia said...

You are magnificent, Sharyn. Each of your boys is a precious gem, but you are the most exquisitely cut of diamonds, with every shimmering glimmering color of the rainbow sparkling and sparkling in your glittering facets. Each time I read the blog, I am reminded that it is impossible not to adore you.

profound love,
Mia

peg said...

This has become such a healing space for me over all of this time, a place I come to for so many different reasons. I know that I am a better person for it, that all of the wisdom, solace and healing I have found here serve to make my way through the days a smoother path to follow, like a compass showing the direction. I have learned so much from all of us!
Dear Jennie, so sweet to hear your voice again....I am so happy you were able to spend some time with your love. You warmed my heart once again.
Thank you Sharyn, and thank you every one of you, strangers yet dearest of friends.
As always, with hope,
peg from PA

Sky said...

From Roberta (in Washington DC)

Sharyn, you are the very picture of resilience; and Jennie -- you are the Queen of Hearts - of ALL of our hearts!

Hold on to this bright moment.

Roberta

Di said...

Sharyn,
I was drawn to your blog about six months ago and have marveled at how you have grown and evolved in that time. When I first started reading you had no confidence that this would ever turn out well. But now you are at a good place where you see progress and although you accept the fact that your son may never be the old Caleb, he is still your son. You are watching a new Caleb emerge and it is so good to hear the positive comments that you are now making about him and yourself.
Those of us on the side lines who are reading your blog have been drawn for a reason. I,personally, had suffered a major loss in my life and like you am slowly emerging into a new but different life.
Thanks so much for being brave enough to share. Keep on sharing.

Susanna said...

Yay Jennie! How great to have one of your optimistic possitive posts. I want to be more like you.

midwestmom said...

I've meant to write before. I have old friends in Wellfleet and have come and gone over the years. The August before last I had my little troop of Girl Scouts stopping in Wellfleet before heading out to Truro. We saw the signs for Caleb and the prayer circle. My girls wanted to know what it was all about, so I asked around and learned about the accident. When I saw the picture I realized I had met Caleb once or twice...at Oysterfest, and the Parade. We all sat by the circle for a while and even after we finished the trip out to the hostel in Truro and and came back to Boston, the girls kept asking about Caleb. I found this blog and kept them updated. They cheered when he came home. Every week they still ask and I give them the news from the blog.

That September an old friend died (too hard and too young). He was a rascal and a pirate and after he died I dreamt I was saying goodbye to him in a crowded airport (not subtle, I know) and saw a young man looking confused in the crowds. I recognized Caleb. "That kid is freaking lost," Dave said "He should be in Wellfleet. I know where everything is here. I'll show him where to go." Caleb looked a little nervous...Dave was a freaky looking dude, to be sure. "Don't worry," I said, "He looks weird, but he's a good guy." Dave steered him off by the elbow. When I told my daughter this dream she rolled her eyes. "Oh Mom," she said, "Dave always gets lost. This could take months." But I am not a person used to conventional prayers...I think that was the strongest wish that I could make for Caleb, to send him my strong, big-hearted, wandering, tattooed pal.

Anyway, we think of you and Caleb and your family often, and six little girls are happy for every joy that comes to you.

Susanna said...

Wow.