I don't have grandchildren, but Max and Lara have allowed me to take care of their new kitten, Pancake, for the weekend, which I feel must be the next best thing. I follow his every move. Watch his wiskers catch the cobwebs I thought I had sucked up in every corner with the vacuum, check to see if our big boof is picking on him, scold Spud when he gets too near, and follow the ups and downs of his breath as he sleeps. Once a mother, always a mother!
So I have been examining myself a bit lately. I had dinner with an old boyfriend - who has followed the blog and wanted to touch base. A stellar man to say the least...and I was self conscious to say the least. I remember standing in his kitchen, in my tight long dress..showing off my perfict figure, my fine tuned body from the many hard core workouts I was accustomed to. Now I am at least 20 pounds overweigt from the stress accumulated over 3 years, I have boobs for Gods sake and lines streaked across my face that were never there before...and in truth? ... I feel more certain, more me, more beautiful (inside) than I have ever before felt-- because I know , finally, who I am. I am a woman who knows love, and knows how to love, and knows how to "feel". This situation allows for re- assesement of priorities. It is like with the kitten. We women are the caregivers of the world. We watch your every move, watch as you collect troubles and get weighed down, see if you are safe, and sneak into your room at night, or role over to see if your breathing is ...to see if your breating IS! Sleep peacefully, knowing that the women in your life take care of you!
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On the fourth of July, 2007 Caleb Potter was involved in a skateboarding accident.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.
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In this season of giving thanks and celebrating family togetherness, I wish to extend a warm thank you to everyone who has been involved in a myriad of ways with my son, Caleb Potter, and his recovery. On July 4, he was involved in a skateboarding accident in our little hometown of Wellfleet on Cape Cod, that caused him serious injuries. He came home from Spaulding Rehab in Boston just before Thanksgiving. Through the blog we started:
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the Wellfleet community of support stretched far and wide across the country, and in fact, throughout parts of the world, with many people offering prayers and words of wisdom. We could not have come so far without this legion of support from all of you, in Wellfleet and beyond. We are sincerely grateful.
Sharyn L. Lindsay and family
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Thank you SO MUCH
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With love,
from all of Caleb's friends and family
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11 comments:
What a great post, first off a kitten (which fills every empty heart) and then the truth about women. We do worry, we care, we watch out for you, and we are the strength that holds a family together. You are beautiful Sharyn, never ever doubt that.
J
We men are not so bad at caring for people. I think mothers ought to take a step back, not too far, but just a little back. It's not good to let men off the hook.Why aren't we the strength that also holds a family together? Or that ought not hold a family together? jack
I knew the second that I posted that I would bring forth a sea of comments from the men of the world..and good for you! You have to remember that I am from the old school of thought - where men were the behind the scene thing...and that is no longer the case...and so good for you Jack for reminding me - and all the fathers, and mothers out there..how time changes things for the better! I love you for this! Sharyn
What a great post, Sharyn! You sound truly happy, and that makes me happy too!
I am your age and I understand completely your point of view on the roles that men and women take in a family, as I come from a long line of strong women...it is heartening to see Jack's response. To me it is a hopeful sign that young men are now more involved in family life, are ready to be caregivers and nurturers, something that I know I never experienced growing up....quite the opposite in fact.
You bring up a provocative topic and one that will maybe shine light on the differences between our generation and those younger. I do believe that in years past it was a mother's influence that instilled sensitivity and compassion in her sons, (or not....)and that in turn this generation of young men will do the same for their children.
You have raised your boys in such a way and their children will be fortunate to have such fathers.
Glad to see that you are out and about, Sharyn, and that you have found your inner beauty! It is easy to see superficial beauty, a reflection in a mirror or in a lover's eyes, but it really takes some searching and inward focus to realize that we carry far more inside than out.
You make us think, and that is a good thing.
as always, with hope and love,
peg from PA
I'm glad I checked in on the blog....
Sharyn, as you know I'm from the old school too!
I could say a lot more but I'll just say this...
Thank you Jack!!
Kevin
Dear Sharyn, I love the sound of your "voice"! It's clear, strong, and beautifully YOU.
These last two posts have brought me to tears...I am so happy for everything that is being made clear to you....who you really are, when to let-go, how to appreciate from a far, and how you are settling into your YOU-ness (a compilation of all your many facets). I am so happy for you, for Caleb, for Kai and Max....what you thought might never happen IS happening right before your eyes...and what a beautiful "dance" it is....!
I am reminded that the "rewards" for parenting go to those who recognize the need and virtue of "Balance"...not too much, not too little. It's what we all strive for....we do the best we can, remembering that true balance is the ability to honor that which is great and worthwhile in each other. No one is perfect, but together, something quite miraculous is born...you are witnessing that now, I think~
With Much Love and Gratitude,
Melinda
I've always felt that my boys are my evolution and that they will certainly improve on the mothering and fathering they received--I have already seen plenty of evidence to know that this is true. But that mothering thing. . . yeah, Sharyn, it is a part of me that I really like and am happy to see stays with me, so I know just what you mean! El
I have to admit that like Jack I did a little "ouch" when I read the post. Not wanting to respond from exclusion, I stepped back to consider your perspective and experience. You are a wise and reflective person and knowing that I quietly reflected. My age would say I should be old school, but I'm not really sure where I fit.
It takes nothing away from the wonderfulness, closeness and commitments of Moms to their kids that there are many dads out there who also worry about and deeply care about their kids, who have changed diapers, read and sung to their kids, have been thrown up on multiple times and stick with it, who make dinner, are involved with school activities or stay up late waiting for them to come home safe. But I also know that I've found met amazed mom's in the market when I have shopped for weekend dinners [and not from Mom's list] and am sometimes the only guy at a booster club meeting.
As Jack has said, it is not good to let dads off the hook especially when there is a willing dad. I know I may fall short of being mom in many ways, but I would not trade my experience as a dad for anything.
Sharyn, your load for many years sounds like it has been heavy and like it was also very disproportionate. For the past few years your load has been one that would crush a mere mortal. You have three fine men that you have to show for your dedication.
If I were wearing a hat, I’d take it off for you and for all the moms out there. The beauty of the many of you shows brightly in the glow of your words and your spirit.
YEA JEFF! and YEA JACK! YOU TOO, KEVIN!
We have to remember that Sharyn doesn't have a partner to bounce things off of and that's why this blog is so good for us all. She has been thru this horror alone, so to speak, except for us women and men who have truly been so thoughtful and caring and supportive, holding her innermost feelings and muses with great gentleness in our hearts. Sharyn is looking thru the eyes of a mother,a single parent but that's not saying that a father can't have the same worries or be as caring.
The wonderful fathers here musn't feel that they fall short of being moms. Sometimes there is a balance in the household and sometimes not but whoever is there holding down the fort should, without a doubt, be praised and thanked and appreciated beyond words.
I just wish there had been more fathers willing to express themselves in loving and caring ways when I was growing up,which was, as my daughter would refer to, in "The Dark Ages!"
Peace and Love.
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