Why is it that we insist on clinging to pain? We as humans, have been given free choice......do you understand how powerful this is? We can choose,..... and still, we insist on looking towards the pain instead of looking toward relief. We hug the hot kettle to ourselves so tightly!
I , once again climbed into bed next to Caleb the other night to tuck him in, and relayed how sorry I was that his life took on such a twist....and he looked at me with this incredulous look. His response......
" Why? , I am alive and I'm fine!"
So, It is me who holds us in a painful spot, a gilded cage of pain. I cannot let loose the bird who bekons forth freedom, who resides inside. He is my perfect gift...he attempts to teach me to let go and let live.
The drum roll of life is beginning to be heard in the backdrop of my head.....I feel a new chapter about to be written, and Caleb Kai and Max are the rich charachters who don the pages of my life, and keep me flipping the paper to get to the next tale. Like all of us fairytale people who walk this brief walk of life, I am insisting on a happy ending.
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On the fourth of July, 2007 Caleb Potter was involved in a skateboarding accident.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.
He suffered serious injuries and continues to need all of our positive thoughts and prayers.
This blog is to serve as a space for updates on Caleb's journey of recovery.
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In this season of giving thanks and celebrating family togetherness, I wish to extend a warm thank you to everyone who has been involved in a myriad of ways with my son, Caleb Potter, and his recovery. On July 4, he was involved in a skateboarding accident in our little hometown of Wellfleet on Cape Cod, that caused him serious injuries. He came home from Spaulding Rehab in Boston just before Thanksgiving. Through the blog we started:
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the Wellfleet community of support stretched far and wide across the country, and in fact, throughout parts of the world, with many people offering prayers and words of wisdom. We could not have come so far without this legion of support from all of you, in Wellfleet and beyond. We are sincerely grateful.
Sharyn L. Lindsay and family
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the Wellfleet community of support stretched far and wide across the country, and in fact, throughout parts of the world, with many people offering prayers and words of wisdom. We could not have come so far without this legion of support from all of you, in Wellfleet and beyond. We are sincerely grateful.
Sharyn L. Lindsay and family
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from all of Caleb's friends and family
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Thank you SO MUCH
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With love,
from all of Caleb's friends and family
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8 comments:
Your Caleb is a very special man, with much to teach all of us.
NY/Wellfleet Mom
That's a neat picture of Caleb on Alexandra Grabbe's Wellfleet Chezsven Blog for Saturday-- re. the Preservation Hall garden tours.
Your gardens were lovely in the
sunshine!
It is true--our children can teach us many things. We all look at life in different ways and I think that we as mothers want our children to be flawless. Some are born with flaws and some have the unfortunate experience of having flaws inflicted upon them. I understand what you are saying, Sharyn and I think the struggle you are having is perfectly understandable and, for the most part, natural. It is so interesting that Caleb asks why you are sorry and tells you he is alive and fine. He is right.
As NY/Wellfleet MOM said.."your Caleb is a very special man."
Peace and love to you all and may The 4th of July not bring too much sadness.
Penny
I think it is (and has always been) clear to me that Caleb is one of those enigmatic people that the world will never keep down. When I saw Caleb last summer, he was still 100% more vibrant, wonderful and intuitive than most people on their best day. I still see the sparkle in him, the humour and gentle spirit that we all love! I think it is important that we let him live as he is, which is his perogative. I feel strongly that pain is almost a blanket we clutch between ourselves and reality. We know that we shouldn't cling to it so tightly, but we also know that to drop the covers would be to accept reality fully. I think this will come with time. I love your sons and think that you have reared the most wonderful people I have in my life. Even for the short time that I see them every year, their personalities make such an impression on me that I carry it with me everyday. They have such strong virtues, and strength in character that is hard to come by. I am still young, but I try my best to live in the moment, and appreciate everything the people around me can offer. And all of your boys offer SO much more than is due!!! I love you all. See you soon
Love Haley
He is alive and he is fine.
I hope the day comes soon that you can stop waiting for the other shoe to drop, stop feeling like it is you and only you who can fix everything, stop thinking that you are responsible and and that the mantle of guilt is yours to wear forever, because: there is no other shoe, you can not fix everything, you are not responsible, and that guilt is far too heavy a thing to carry for long.
I think sometimes we hold on to all of those emotions because we feel like we don't deserve to be happy, that we are afraid to feel happiness because it hurts so much to lose it, that to be happy is a risky venture. And indeed it is, but one well worth exploring.
You deserve to feel joy without guilt, you deserve to fly as high as your wings of freedom can carry you, you deserve to revel in the simple pleasure of being alive with those you love, unfettered by pain and regret.
I wish all of these things for you Sharyn. Follow Caleb's lead...be alive and be fine!
As always, with hope, and love,
peg from PA
Echoing all that has already been said.
What takes us so long to get to that point when we internalize that guilt is just a useless and heavy load to lug around? I wish I knew.
Sometimes we hold on so tight that we don't realize that what we think we are grasping is no longer there. Like sand that has sifted through our fingers. We are afraid to loosen the grip because we will have to realize that there is nothing there.
Sharyn, you have had to tow a heavy load for a long time because you needed to and because Caleb needed you to.
In Caleb's own words, he is alive and he is fine.
It is time for you to put it down.
I think when it comes to our kids we can be so focused on doing well by them that we have a difficult time backing away when they say they are fine, because it isn't our image of fine.
Life is full of miracles and you have 3 (4 counting Timmy) and Caleb is a miracle many times over.
It may not be an ending but it seems like a bright beginning of a new chapter. Caleb us fine and he is alive!
And it isn't over til is over.
The best thing about Caleb being alive and doing well is that he is doing it in Wellfleet, where there will always be a place for him to be whomever he wants to be.
I look forward to my first July 4th in Wellfleet and celebrating all that is good with you.
See you on Saturday Sharyn,
marcia
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