tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post8742263012226336320..comments2023-07-05T09:03:37.824-04:00Comments on Caleb Potter: Negitivi-tahUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-74740337157511760832008-03-12T00:06:00.000-04:002008-03-12T00:06:00.000-04:00Sharyn,So very glad to read that Caleb is out walk...Sharyn,<BR/>So very glad to read that Caleb is out walking in the beautiful healing surround that is Wellfleet, Cape Cod, MA. That he is telling jokes is a wonderful thing to hear. <BR/>The movie you referred to is Parenthood - one of my favorites. Surely, when the roller coaster hits botton, it is nothing anyone would choose to experience, but it seems like your grace, love and dignity have pulled you back up to the parts of that ride of life where you can enjoy the beauty of life with your precious sons as they are at this moment in time. <BR/>Wishing all good things for you, Caleb, Kai and Max. D&P AntinoriAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09548461568487479417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-47001033935037517332008-03-09T21:38:00.000-04:002008-03-09T21:38:00.000-04:00Sharyn,I love the way you get us thinking,& writin...Sharyn,<BR/>I love the way you get us thinking,<BR/>& writing, and the blog goes on for days, almost taking on a life of its own. I join you in questioning and rethinking old ways, in seeking positive energy. Thank-you.<BR/><BR/>Hope you all got out to enjoy the long hours of sunshine today... a little cold for working in the garden, but I puttered for awhile.<BR/><BR/>Wishing you & Caleb happiness and healing in the new week ahead,<BR/>janetAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-5020818159539740852008-03-09T15:40:00.000-04:002008-03-09T15:40:00.000-04:00My prayer for caleb and your family extends itself...My prayer for caleb and your family extends itself to all who pray with us , all those who are suffering, and all those who have yet to accept that sometimes the mystery is unfolding in ways beyond our knowing. peace ann mAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-87506953990833167522008-03-09T14:32:00.000-04:002008-03-09T14:32:00.000-04:00I am an often blogger but for this I am choosing t...I am an often blogger but for this I am choosing to be unnamed.<BR/><BR/>Today I took part in a very moving experience and you all were included. <BR/><BR/>The church community that I attend has refinished a floor for the purpose of painting a labyrinth, which very briefly is a marked path for spiritual meditation. As it was being laid out there was an opportunity to write prayers, wishes, special thoughts or name special people along the borders of the path. These borders will be painted and the special thoughts will forever be part of the prayer and meditation in this space. <BR/><BR/>Included is a prayer for Caleb, for healing and for long happy prosperous life. Also for Sharyn and the Potter / Lindsay clan and for this blog community as a whole [those who write and those who don't} and as many individuals as I could remember. <BR/><BR/>As I wrote each one the experience brought more than one tear. The caring and sharing that takes place here is so special.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-83330760324284166352008-03-09T11:40:00.000-04:002008-03-09T11:40:00.000-04:00Dear Sharyn,There are those "snakes" out there who...Dear Sharyn,<BR/><BR/>There are those "snakes" out there who know exactly when to strike and that is when you/we are in our most vulnerable state.<BR/><BR/>The words of wisdom and compassion in this blog are amazing. We are all in therapy!!!!!!! At least you are still confronting your pain and didn't run away from it like I tried to do a long time ago. The pain is still there and I am just touching on beginning to deal with it-----and so it goes.<BR/>Thanks to you and your honesty and <BR/>integrity. I thought of being anonymous but what the heck. <BR/><BR/>Peace and happiness and of course love, to you all. Penny on St.JohnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-4930648842110308222008-03-09T09:50:00.000-04:002008-03-09T09:50:00.000-04:00Sharyn -As a part time dweller in Wellfleet I unde...Sharyn -As a part time dweller in Wellfleet I understand the dynamics of those who create the Negativi-tah. And my observation is those who spread it are afraid to lose control of something or someone they neither "own" nor understand. What helped me in the past was my knowledge that those I cared about cared about me - tenderly. <BR/><BR/>I have only left a few comments on your blog, but this one will be "anonymous."<BR/><BR/>I admire your courage to examine the demons you encounter, and encourage you to turn your writing into a book. You have the power to help so many people face their fears and challenges.<BR/><BR/>I wait for the summer day that Caleb gives me his big smile over a cup of self-serve coffee.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-21049983732296639142008-03-09T08:27:00.000-04:002008-03-09T08:27:00.000-04:00QUOTE: "someone once said, "we try to forgive thos...QUOTE: "someone once said, "we try to forgive those who have wronged us but we never learn to forgive the people we've wronged"...<BR/><BR/>WOW.......how profound....this is definitely something to chew on. <BR/><BR/>Thanks!<BR/><BR/>How often does the weight of unresolved guilt keep us from moving on?Jeff- in the Berkshireshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04986542742179320808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-90194209581540343932008-03-09T07:46:00.000-04:002008-03-09T07:46:00.000-04:00someone once said, "we try to forgive those who ha...someone once said, "we try to forgive those who have wronged us but we never learn to forgive the people we've wronged"...that's been my recent journey and it's difficult, but it feels so good...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-77343371819012954852008-03-08T20:46:00.000-05:002008-03-08T20:46:00.000-05:00I know what you mean. In a tiny town like ours if ...I know what you mean. In a tiny town like ours if you have any kind of problem with someone you will still see them regularly. When I lived in the big city if I had a problem with someone I never had to see them again, ever. I could just chose not to, but when I moved here I realized I would keep bumping into people over and over again, like it or not.Knowing you I don't think the negativity was your negativity, so let it go. If possible. Yes, he is changed and it is a result of his life but I think it is better to be alive than not and I think Caleb is going to rise to this situation and prevail.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-77002109888052950402008-03-08T19:27:00.000-05:002008-03-08T19:27:00.000-05:00Sharyn- I'm so glad that you are back as eloquent ...Sharyn- I'm so glad that you are back as eloquent as ever. I think that one day your entire blog will be published. You are such an amazing, strong, grounded woman. I don't know what negativity you came up against at the now Wellfleet Market Place (aka Lemos) but I guess it's a learning experience in humanity and their shortcomings. People will always have "foot in mouth disease", but I know that you can rise above it. Caleb has so many people pulling for him, sending him much light and love and positive thoughts, I think this outnumbers the thougtless, uninformed, unenlightened people out there. You keep being your beautiful, hopeful, light self and taking care of that beautiful soul, Caleb. He is in such good hands. I can't wait to come up on Memorial Day Weekend and drink that bottle of wine with you and toast the amazing boy that is truly your apple!!! I love you.<BR/>Debbie (OneEyed)!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-78992276314190776252008-03-08T17:23:00.001-05:002008-03-08T17:23:00.001-05:00Jeff-in-the-Berkshires,Your writings are wisdom wr...Jeff-in-the-Berkshires,<BR/>Your writings are wisdom wrapped in poetry inside tenderness and respect.<BR/>RCL in DCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-57029133734766864052008-03-08T17:23:00.000-05:002008-03-08T17:23:00.000-05:00Hey hott Mamita..Just wanted to say I love you. ...Hey hott Mamita..<BR/>Just wanted to say I love you. Living in such a small town is bound to bring bouts of discomfort, but Fleet is also full of wonderful people to help pick you up when you are sad, down, and lost. Look to those peeps, and do something GOOD for yourself.<BR/>Have a blessed weekend..<BR/>Besos.. Clance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-67320327879883286092008-03-08T16:54:00.000-05:002008-03-08T16:54:00.000-05:00Sharyn,Your words are so honest, courageous and po...Sharyn,<BR/><BR/>Your words are so honest, courageous and powerful. <BR/><BR/>Being human, it takes time, sometimes so much time, to get to that place where you can loosen the grip that you speak of. But after releasing that tight grip, one feels so free, so much lighter...<BR/><BR/>Enjoy the lightness you feel, Sharyn, and let the other one just be...it doesn't matter which road they choose; it only matters which road you have chosen for yourself. <BR/><BR/>I strongly believe in that old adage that Jerry G. speaks of, "what goes around comes around". And even if you were to consider nothing else in your life, only consider the love and support that comes to you through the kind words, thoughts and wishes from all who post here, I believe it speaks to your own character and grace to see what is coming back around to you over these past months.<BR/><BR/>Sending you positive energy,<BR/><BR/>DD<BR/>North EasthamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-89461501214404599212008-03-08T16:11:00.000-05:002008-03-08T16:11:00.000-05:00Dear Sharyn,We teach people how to treat us...and ...Dear Sharyn,<BR/>We teach people how to treat us...and with your smile and red lipstick, you're teaching positive energy...and it cancels out the negativity. Just keep smiling!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-13603959593467052632008-03-08T15:30:00.000-05:002008-03-08T15:30:00.000-05:00Sharyn, This is why were given the gift of the smi...Sharyn, This is why were given the gift of the smile. If we all took in the negativity that can corset you from anywhere, we could never, never smile. So when it hits, breath in, turn on those boots, move on and smile.............<BR/>Some people are here only for the thrill of the ride, others for<BR/>the absolute.<BR/>love kolleenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-42092500216059499772008-03-08T14:27:00.000-05:002008-03-08T14:27:00.000-05:00WOW! I GET AS MUCH OUT OF ALL OF THESE COMMENTS AS...WOW! I GET AS MUCH OUT OF ALL OF THESE COMMENTS AS I DO FROM THE ORIGINAL POSTS. THIS IS ONE PROFOUND CIRCLE OF VIRTUAL FRIENDS!! THANKS TO ALL OF YOU.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-72819115994860480002008-03-08T11:39:00.000-05:002008-03-08T11:39:00.000-05:00We all have demons that continue to aggravate us i...We all have demons that continue to aggravate us in one way or another through the years. Don't dwell on them, smile and kick them out! Smile that beautiful smile and the whole world will smile with you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-20084715360940842092008-03-08T10:01:00.000-05:002008-03-08T10:01:00.000-05:00people who give off negative...that's their flow o...people who give off negative...that's their flow of energy and it's too bad. people who judge....that's their way of doling out the feelings they have for themselves and their lives. and it's too bad. i can only hope my good, and your good, sharyn, can help their bad in some way through the flow of energy through the universe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-65412356844354855082008-03-08T10:00:00.000-05:002008-03-08T10:00:00.000-05:00Sharyn, That was a masterful writing. Another gif...Sharyn, <BR/> That was a masterful writing. Another gift... thank you.<BR/> I want to give something of myself back. A few years ago something really bad and sad happened in my life, and the tragedy was further complicated by a separate ugly interaction with two women with whom I had been friends.<BR/> Now, I should say that I have always been a person who can easily get lost in pain and self doubt at such times...which doesn't help anything (but, it is what it is, as they say). However this time, late one night -just as I was slipping lnto the abyss of pain over this collateral incident with the two women- I had a thought. At first the thought seemed a little simplistic, but as I turned it around in my mind, I realized that it had profound implications for me. I thought, "My life is like a long train ride and I am more than half way through it. This pain is enormous and it will fill up alot of what is left. I can choose not to stay in this place with this enormous pain. I can choose instead to get back on the train that is my life and go on to the next stop and not look back."<BR/> When I had that insight it was if a light was turned on in my brain. It would be a new way of being for me...a way that had never occured to me before (it was probably born out of a hugh fear of the enormity of what I would otherwise feel. ). The next moment I pushed all thoughts of those two women from my mind, and chose to move on to the next station. I never looked back.<BR/> Sometimes I run into one of the women in the Marketplace...I use a different aisle.<BR/><BR/>Best to you. Gail<BR/><BR/>p.s. I am not suggesting that this applies to your situation. It is really just to share.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-48700809473465476972008-03-08T08:30:00.000-05:002008-03-08T08:30:00.000-05:00It has taken me 20 years to forgive all of my hurt...It has taken me 20 years to forgive all of my hurts, and let go of past mistakes...my family 'negativity gene' has been a dominant force, and a tough one to turn around. What made it so hard was that the hurt I bumped into was myself, every day. How does one forgive so many stupid mistakes?<BR/>How does one look back and not cringe with shame and embarrassment? What I have come to understand is that I am no longer the same person now that I was back then. With time has come the understanding of the reasons behind my self destructive behavior. With time has come happiness and a contentment with who I am now, and a large dose of forgiveness for the me that was then. Love for one's self is paramount in order to be able to feel love for others.<BR/>It is a long road, a rocky one and hard. But the end of the journey proves the value of the pain of self examination. Your words resonate with me on so many levels, Sharyn. Caleb has become a teacher and a guide for everyone , and your candor regarding this 'education' is greatly appreciated. In the end. we are all of us only human.....<BR/>I hold you both in my heart, and wish you peace and healing ....<BR/>As always, with hope ,<BR/>peg from PAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-73287537509022023972008-03-07T23:23:00.000-05:002008-03-07T23:23:00.000-05:00My dear Sharyn,Not knowing (nor wanting to know) t...My dear Sharyn,<BR/><BR/>Not knowing (nor wanting to know) the details of your encounter, I will guess that fundamentally, it was a head-on collision with ignorance. I know a thing or two about that firsthand. I could tell you stories (and perhaps someday I will) that would make your toes curl... the highest and mightiest stalwarts of the snootiest imaginable community (imagine the anti-Fleet) exhibiting an unimaginable level of cruelty amidst a veil of civility and faux concern. <BR/><BR/>For what it's worth, I have two observations based on my own experience: 1) ignorance is truly just that... lack of knowledge or understanding. It can exist apart from education or sophistication or even good intentions (in retrospect I truly believe this); and 2) this hoary old saw is really true, at least sometimes: <I>what goes around comes around.</I> We are all humans and as such, we're vulnerable. This cuts two ways... it sounds like you've taken the high road... in time, that will come back to you. And as for your tormentor, the source of your pain... eventually that person's day will come. When it does, if there's any balance in this universe, they will be reminded in some tangible way of the pain they brought to your door this week.<BR/><BR/>Your resolve and your grace remain an inspiration to us all.<BR/><BR/>With love,<BR/><BR/>Jerry GAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-10048020670089317292008-03-07T23:02:00.000-05:002008-03-07T23:02:00.000-05:00She still has eyes that see right through, but sel...She still has eyes that see right through, but seldom looks anymore. She's tired of seeing. Present yourself or stop asking.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-3945578726200131272008-03-07T22:14:00.000-05:002008-03-07T22:14:00.000-05:00What an intense place to be right now. I admire y...What an intense place to be right now. I admire you for your strength and wisdom.<BR/><BR/>Know that Caleb is laughing out loud in his mind. His only barrier now is physical. He will grow, rest, and recover in time. Patience is a virtue.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-2782057497569555662008-03-07T21:55:00.000-05:002008-03-07T21:55:00.000-05:00Hi girlfriend,What I used to say is, "You will alw...Hi girlfriend,<BR/>What I used to say is, "You will always run into your problems at 5:00 at Lema's Market." That when it was Lema's, and those were my problems. Time changes soooo many things. Bless time! And if I am hearing you correctly, choosing love works every time...that would be my experience, too. Love, ElAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6630527597616825138.post-57308863356325576012008-03-07T21:51:00.000-05:002008-03-07T21:51:00.000-05:00Sharyn,Well it sounds like you are in control of y...Sharyn,<BR/><BR/>Well it sounds like you are in control of your feelings...Caleb, Kai and Max will all see this if no one else...They are the ones I know that matter most to you. Happiness is... Let that light shine the brightest of all. <BR/><BR/>Doors close and doors open. If I have my way when you walk in the Liquor Store you will only run into positivi-tay!<BR/><BR/>KevinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com